I can't understand it anymore.

My wife of 8 years emptied our accounts, retained an attorney, and had me removed from our home 2 days after a bad fight (no violence, just words).

She gave birth to our 3rd child in April of this year. A month later, she seemed to have gone off the deep end. Systematically emptying our accounts, seeing an attorney, threatening divorce, even though she says she doesn't want one, and finally kicking me out.

I haven't seen my kids for a week, and won't for at least another.

I know she wants me back but is still clinging to the fact that she is controlling the shots. Stupid pride. My wife has no income, we own 2 homes, a business that is now derailed because I can no longer run it. Add to it that she emptied the account dry.

When the time comes to go back legally, I simply don't want to any longer. I just don't trust her.

Now she's sending me email pictures of my kids to rub it in. How cruel.

She told me and her attorney she just wanted to humble me. Well, she did. But how do I regain the love and trust? All I did was provide and love my family. We're shattered.

Hello sp,

Well,I took the liberty of going back and reading your other posts and I feel a bit confused.You post about marriage problems once in July 2001 and then disappear for two years only to come back and post about childrens issues but then you have a great marriage and then back again to having issues with now both the W and the kids and In-laws/family in all.

Have you considered counseling in all this time? Did you do anything to try and solve the problems in your marriage and if so,what?

O

October,

Underlying problems have been around for a long time (you think?). We've tried counseling but can't make it work. My wife has a close, meddling family that I do not get along with. They have caused situations in the past and pitted my wife against me and she was never strong enough to stand for our marriage.

You've heard of the provincial in-law problems? The ones where in-laws get too involved and the spouse can never stand up for themselves? That is what we face each and every day. It's just a big mess.

Yes, based on all your posts,it all is one big mess and continues to be.

I guess the million dollar question is:Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life,in chaos?

O