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Has anyone read this book it's about surviving after an affair and keeping your sanity there is a quote from Michele on the cover recommending it....
Not "just friends" by shirley glass
If you have read it....please give me your take on it...
<small>[ September 29, 2004, 02:37 PM: Message edited by: missinghimterribly ]</small>
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I have read the book and found it to be quite good. It is based on lots of research and gives good references-articles,books and websites. It also looks at an A from all involved so helps to give a better understanding. It looks at the vulnerabilities of the individual,marriage and social aspects that can contribute to an A. I would definately recommend it.
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Excellent book! The best $15 you'll ever spend. I have read it cover to cover. W is reading it now. I gave a copy to MC and she likes the content and assigned my W certain chapters.
Don't use it a way to justify your (BS) actions. Use it as a tool for the explanation of your (BS) behaviors after D-day.
Get it ASAP.
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It's the most comprehensive and ambitious work on modern adultery that I've seen. Essential reading. The late Dr. Glass (mother of Ira Glass from NPR's This American Life, incidentally) gave us an invaluable gift with this book. I don't know if she ever published the book she was writing for members of the MC profession.
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Dr. Harley recommended it on his radio show, and I got it. What was most insightful for me is that women tend to believe that an affair begins with the first passionate kiss and men tend to believe that an affair begins with sexual intercourse. The OW performed oral sex on my H and did not bring him to orgasm and never had sexual intercourse with him. To him, this distiction held great importance because, to him, that meant he wasn't actually having an affair. To me, it was slightly more relevant than the totally irrelevant distinction that he only saw her during work hours. I also got from that book the very important idea that it takes two to make a marriage.
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Got it 2 days ago an half way thorugh. A magnifencently useful book as a companion to Harleys books IMO.
Highly practical, and sympathetic to both WS and BS.
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