This is a wierd one...

I know that exposure is strongly recommended around here and I totally understand. But, there is this situation that I am aware of that goes like this.

For the purpose of this post I will refer to the men as #2 and #4 (their birth order)

Brother #2 is married and takes in brother #4 to live with them as a young, single adult to get on his feet in a new place. Well, #4 sleeps with the wife in an ongoing A of 6 mos.

Life goes on, #4 leaves area, marries, then moves back to where #2 lives. I don't believe A resumes but they are all in this very small community.

Here's the kicker! The wife of #2 knows, #4 knows, of course, new wife of #4 knows, but the poor H (brother #2) knows nothing!!

To this day, after 20+ years, he knows nothing! They are all keeping the big huge secret. I think even relatives of the wife of #2 know but have never told.

And, since #4 and his wife no longer live there, the families visit each other with #2 still in the dark.

What are your thoughts on exposure in a wierd situation like this??

I think about it every day. And I feel so sorry for #2..what if he finds out-he will be so totally devastaed. But what is the good in telling now?

Wow. What a mess.

Would love to hear thoughts on this one <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I hope it isn't too confusing...I understand it but of course I wrote it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> so if I need to clarify just let me know

I would let sleeping dogs lie. It would be devastating for him to find out now, and realize that everhone else knew.

It's real easy for me to sit here and say tell him, but I know that is much harder to do. I face a similar situation with a good friend of mine and I just don't have it in me to tell this man. I would only suggest that you pray, pray, pray about it.