W was going to visit Internet EA in 2 weeks and asked me to go. I've considered carefully and decided to accept (better than risking PA if alone).

Anyone care to offer advice?

I'm confused GG...what do you think her motivation would be for this? Does she want you present to tell him face-to-face it's over? Why does she need to meet him face-to-face for that, if the A was all online why can't she just send a NC email and be done with it?

I agree, there should not be a point to meeting face to face if it has never been done before.

GG,

I agree with the others. No personal contact.

BIG RED FLAGS for me that your wife has such a "urge" to see him "face to face"!

A little of my story.
My husband met OW+OWH when he was at an activity. I wasn't there with him. The same day he had met them, we were invited over to their place for diner. (OW's idea)
So my husband came home and asked me to come with him to OW+OWH for diner.

I agreed even though I didn't feel all that good about it. Don't ask me why. (he was pressuring and he really wanted to go there and this behaviour was strange for him)

I now know that alot could of been prevented if I hadn't of gone because my husband wouldn't of gone either. This was the evening when it all started.

It was the "Body-Talk" and "Eye-Contact" that got them going. A day or two later the affair started "Full-Blast". <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

take care
bb

All bad. It all smells REALLY bad.
You are BOUND to LB. What you gonna do, shake his hand ? "Hows it going, talked about my failing swith my W recently ?"

I see no good coming from it at all, and all bad.

Do not do it, and impress upon your WW how important it is that she also does not go.

WW said she was going to meet him with or without me, but she preferred that I go. I agree with bb that there are BIG RED FLAGS, there is no doubt she is fully involved in EA, even though she is in so much fog she can't see the iceberg ahead.

Part of that fog, to me, is what she will do if I AM NOT there. In her mind, us, OM, & OMW need to all be good 'friends'.

We talked last night for a long time about my going with her. I told her not to mistake my presence for approval, that I consider the whole relationship inappropriate and wrong.

It will not be easy, but I am praying that I can demonstrate the high road, avoid LB, and maintain integrity through the whole thing.

Is everybody's opinion still the same, do I make any sense at all, or am I deceiving myself?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by GEORGIA GUY:
<strong> WW said she was going to meet him with or without me, but she preferred that I go.
Is everybody's opinion still the same, do I make any sense at all, or am I deceiving myself? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Read foreverhers' post on your other thread. I think it is right on target.