I am trying to make out marriage work. H had an on-going A that was ended last Feburary. We have been trying to make a go of our M ever since. We have moved and left little forwarding information for people of our former life. For a while H was really trying to meet my EN and I for him. Here is the deal a few months ago I felt him pull away from me again. he is spending most of his freetime with buddies, or on the computer (he is at work right now, or I would try to spend time with him). Anyway we have been really struggleing lately. Last night I actually told him to F-off because yet again he got home from work and immediately invited a friend over instead of spending time with me. I try to tell him how i am feeling, and he either just ignores me or tells me that I am reading too far into the situation. I have asked him several times to please go to MC with me and he says if I ask him again that we will be done. I have ordered every book on marriage and romance and surviving an affair that I can find. I am currently reading a few of them, just trying to get ideas on how to help our M. Everytime I come home with a new one or one comes in the mail he just rolls his eyes and tells me I am wasteing more money. He will not fill out any questionaires or read anything I suggest. He just says that if we were meant to be we would just work (a little idea his 19 year old bimbo put in his head). I really want to give our M a chance, but he does not seem interested in trying, or putting any effort into filling my EN. Is anyone else in this situation or have any suggetions for me? How can I get him to be an active spouse in the recovery process instead of a reluctant one. I am afraid if we continue down this one way road, I will continue to feel hurt and blow up at little things and we will soon desolve any chance of a happy M and end in D, which is exactly where I DO NOT WANT TO BE. What can I do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

<small>[ October 13, 2004, 10:45 PM: Message edited by: KMEJ ]</small>