Thank you all for your prayers and support.
In case you missed my other posts, NC letter was written and mailed. OM should received it Thursday. However, OM contacted me today,I told him it was over, he called me not so nice names and made threats, etc.
I know I did the right thing and would like to thank you for your encouragement on my other threads. I appreciate your thoughts.
TMCM:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
YOU can hold your head high that you are doing everything in your power to repair your marriage.

YOU can look yourself in the mirror and KNOW that you are coming closer to God.

YOU can look at your childrens eyes and know that you are doing right </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">YES! I can do that. A weight has been lifted and I am finally doing what I know in my heart is right.

Thank you all again.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">OM contacted me today,I told him it was over, he called me not so nice names and made threats, etc. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">(((((Waking Up)))))

Yes, you did the right thing and we are all very proud of you. It hasn't been easy, but I think the way he responded to you may be an indication of what he is "really like." Not exactly your "first pick" if you were just meeting him, eh?

So what's "tops" on your list of help you think you might need now?

God bless.

System double posted again.

<small>[ November 03, 2004, 04:19 PM: Message edited by: ForeverHers ]</small>

Hi Foreverhers,
What do I need now? I'm not sure. It seems everything was focused on ending contact with OM. That is done.
God has given me time and a refuge to just seek him with the ending of my job.
First and foremost, I want restoration with God, I want to build a relationship with him and see what he wants from me. I believe that from there, everything else will fall in place.
My accountability group is praying protection for my family against any threats from OM, not physical threats, just slander, vengeful gossip, things that could harm my kids, etc.
Now, I just need your prayer support! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Thank you and God Bless You Too!!

Okay, you've got the prayer support.

Now for a bit more practical help.

Why don't you go to the bookstore and by a book called On Holy Ground by Charles Stanley.

It's a daily devotional book that my wife and I found very helpful. You may even be, as was I, at how "timely" the devotions are. They take about 5 minutes at the start of each day. If your husband is willing, it would be a great thing to do together that doesn't take long and really gets the day started off well.

God bless.

FH,
Will order it off Amazon today.
Thank you..

Any other practical advice you have is much appreciated.

Can I change my name to Finally Woke Up?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Can I change my name to Finally Woke Up?? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sounds good to me, but FWU? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Perhaps you could make a list of "new names" if you'd really like to change your current name. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Sounds good to me, but FWU?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thats too funny!

I will keep it waking up, I know I have more waking up to do..

WU,

I have been on travel lately. How is your marriage doing? Does your H know of the threats by OM? What are your plans to protect your H, yourself, and your marriage?

I am proud that you sent the NC letter, I know it was hard but in the long run I beleive you will find peace in your life and hopefully your marriage.

God Bless,

JL

Learn to love God and you will learn to love yourself and when you learn to love yourself, you will learn to love others.

JL,
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How is your marriage doing? Does your H know of the threats by OM? What are your plans to protect your H, yourself, and your marriage?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I believe my marriage is going to not only survive, but thrive because I have finally decided to put God first, not me. We have been getting along and doing things as a family, my heart was just divided. Now, it is not.
H does not know of OM's threats. I don't believe OM will follow through. If he does, one thing H will know is that OM and I are finished and if H still chooses to end the marriage, it will be in Gods hand and my actions toward H will have to speak louder than my words.
As far as protecting myself, marriage and H, I have a group of strong christian women I trust and who I am accoutable to. I have dedicated my life and marriage to God, the only one who can save it. Again, my actions will speak louder than my words as far as protecting H, I will have to show him he is safe and loved and can trust me again. Win him over with actions not words..I believe that is scriptural.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

WU

Waking Up,

I am so proud that you have taken the steps to do what is right and to end your A. I know God will honor that. I pray that you and your H will draw close to God. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I pray that my WH will come to this point and make the step to make things right.
I hope that I can point him to your thread in the near future to give him hope.

Our prayers and thoughts are with you, Waking Up.

Katie

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Waking Up:
<strong> JL,
I believe my marriage is going to not only survive, but thrive because I have finally decided to put God first, not me. We have been getting along and doing things as a family, my heart was just divided. WU </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WU- so glad to hear this!!!!!!!!!