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Got a hold of me via one of her G-friends...would like it tommorrow morning if possible, says it's for tax purposes. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I don't know of any "tax purposes" that require this and furthermore I believe the documents may be in my safety deposit box. What is she up to? My first instinct says its for passport purposes so she and OM and his children can take a winter vacation south...maybe mexico.

So what's my plan B response. Tell her to go to vital statistics to get a copy, ask specifically what it's for, just give it to her, or not respond at all??

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What Plan are you in, Binder?

If in Plan A, give her copy.

If in Plan B, tell her friend she can aquire a copy from the court house or on-line. duh ...

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When in Plan B you do not meet any needs of hers.

Giving her copy is meeting a need. She's a big girl, she can drive down to the court house and buy a copy. Or she can order one on-line and wait for it to arrive.

This urgently needing it tomorrow for tax purposes is her deal. She did not plan well, guess she was so use to you meeting some of those urgent badly planned needs.

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<small>[ November 29, 2004, 06:08 PM: Message edited by: Resilient ]</small>

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Plan B since July. Maybe 20 sec conversation (total) between us since then when exchanging kids.

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If you have the children, wouldn't you be claiming them?

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SHe is with other man, screw her. It brings no harm to the kids. YOu are in plan b- you meet -ZERO of her needs- that is none. THis is meeting a need. She can get it herself, let her!

Hang in there

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Binder,

She can not take your children out of the country without you permission. Their are ways to stop it. If you can guess which border or which country, call INS at that border or at the airport if flying and let them know it is against your wishes.

For tax purposes, all you need is a SS#. I know, my dd"s dad & I switch every other year in claiming her as a dependent.

The only thing I can think of would be for a passport.

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Thanks Resiient and KMEJ, that's 2 no's...Dewt...fellow Canuck, we split parenting 50/50...Weaver, Candadian system is a tad different, but I see it the same way as you.

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Binder,

Just a little FYI here for you. If you think it is for vacation reasons and if that means removing the children from the country, in the United States if one parent only is taking the children the airlines and customs require written permission from the other parent.

And to answer your question...wouldnt do a darn thing for her.


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Binder:

I dunno, maybe she thinks she can clone the kids if she has their birth cirtificates?

Agree with the plan B advisers.

-ol' 2long

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Hey, Binder. Fellow Canuck here.

Just checked on the Income Tax site. Try this
http://www.cra-arc.gc.ca/benefits/iis/topic-index/ac/in-e.html
If she is claiming them on her income tax for the first time and you never have, she would need it for that. But that is after the end of the year. If she is applying for the monthly family allowance, she might need it. But, if she needs if for that, tell her you can fax it to Revenue Canada for her. That way you can keep the Birth Certificates with you.

So, my suspicious mind would say forget it! She's up to somthing! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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Lisa, I'm thinking there is something in place for that here as well.

2long got your vote.

Fightingaloneagain....good name...I should change my name to Havingsexwithmyselfagain. Thanks for all the research!! I will be educating myself further on that. Something definately smells here. The fax suggestion is a good one.

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Darn, Binder, ROTFLMAO! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Thank Goodness, we can still laugh a little, eh?
I was just thinking of changing my name to something along that line, too.

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LMAO!

I'm sorry for crackin up but this --->>> "Havingsexwithmyselfagain" made me laugh so hard.

Binder, I promise things will get better for you. I never thought I would make it thru this either, but I did. And I'm THE Uber-wimp.

Hang in there and God Bless.

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Hey..alone over here also..dont even have the Flyers to look at!!!

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BINDER !!!!

Just sit on your hands... that way you won't be "helping" WW in Plan B and ... well, you know <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Pep

PS .... WW is up to no good methinks!

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I'm thinking maybe they will just jump across the US border. Dr. wonderful has his own plane and he can circumvent a lot of the usual checks required for cross border movement. They may simply require proof of citizenship for that.

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Binder, I know when we cross from Michigan into Canada, you had best have your kids' birth certificates with you or you might not be let into Canada or back into the States.

They are that picky, at least in the Detroit/Windsor check points.

~ Snow

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Just sit on your hands... that way you won't be "helping" WW in Plan B and ... well, you know
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">PEP, I had a comeback for that one, but I'd better leave well enough alone. Yes...she's scheming to be sure.

Snowbelle...that is where my money lays...a little cross border trip in the plane...what better way prostitute OM and attempt to gain my son's respect via the spectacle.

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It's all making more sense and is suspiciosly close to the kids Christmas break from school. As I get them EVERY weekend it would be the only time she can get away with them.

I already sent her a message suggesting I fax the copies...thanks Fightingalone-again.

Lisa0705:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Hey..alone over here also..dont even have the Flyers to look at!!!

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah...the NHL lockout...serious hockey withdrawl going on in Canada. I predict a mini population explosion up here in 9 mos. Raise the population here to an even dozen.

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