Is it smart to give my WW HNHN & LB while she is still in OMs house?

My personal advice is no...don't give them tools to build their own relationship, save that for yourself.

Get surviving an affair, that pretty much tells you what to do.

Get out the 2x4s - Maybe Im wrong, but I think some of the fog might be lifting a little on my Ws deal w/OM, she was talking today about being around all the kids all day on the weekends, OM has 3.

Im not going to read into her words so much, but I guess maybe the look in her eyes when she says things kinda makes me think that shes really having a tough time right now, like shes only there because shes not ready to come home, yet cant be on her own either, well I gave her the book HNHN before she left, she looked it over and said she would like to read it for us.

Tomorrow is our Anniversary, I had originally set this as my Plan B date, but after our talk tonight I think Plan A is working along with the puppy love over with. She was telling me how she knows its all grand and euphoric at first, then things fall way short, I think she on the way down on this ride, but Im not holding my breath right now either, so thats a little better.

I cant believe I said some of this last night, what was I thinking, I think I may give her the Plan B letter today anyway. Im fooling only myself here. When I sit and replay our conversations in my head overnight I realize Im only seeing what I want to see, she has no regrets, no guilt, no shame, and no love for me. Ill be getting this book back. What a Happy Anniversary.