Last weekend I saw the movie Closer with one of my daughters who is 24 years old.
She and I came out of the movie theater with a sour taste in our souls!! Its the most depressing movie I had ever seen.
There are two couples, that deal with infidelity, no one is happy ever!!!! From beginning to end the two couples are struggling with the deceit,the lies <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .
The movie made us very uncomfortable. It is not a happy movie, its very emotionally wrenching.
I dont recommend this movie to any BSs or WW-WHs!!

The movie is very well acted by all the actors involved (Julia Roberts-Jude Law-NataliePortman,CliveOwen)

Its a movie of love and betrayal.
Has anyone here seen it??

Myrta

I have to say...I keep seeing how these movies are making ALOT of people upset....but I myself don't understand why.

I myself don't usually watch girly movies....mushy...gushy ones ya know. I'd rather watch an action/adventure, sci-fi or comedy.

BUT....I have seen MANY movies with infidelity in them....but they don't and it doesn't bother me. Those people aren't me...and they aren't portraying MY situation.

It's a movie....people playing a roll from a script that someone has written.

I for one choose to NOT let a movie bother me.

Of course when I see a movie like this....I make little commments about it...as I don't condone having an A.....but I CHOOSE how I'm going to react to it and I CHOOSE whether I'm going to let it bother me or not.

JMHO

Well, it is not that I identify myself with any of the characters of the movie, since everybody has different stories, but this movie is particularly depressing.
I had seen movies that deal with infidelity, like Unfaithful, House of Sand and Fog, and they really dont get me down.
But this movie its just weird,you feel ill at ease. You feel just down. My daughter has no bad relationships,and she is very young, and she as well was sad with this movie.
I told my husband Stanley about it, and HE wants to see it, even though he gets down reading some posts here, and with those kinds of movies.

Myrta

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Myrta:
I told my husband Stanley about it, and HE wants to see it, even though he gets down reading some posts here, and with those kinds of movies. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">*STANLEY*... listen to Myrta... don't go see any movie that will cause you to feel all stired up and reignite your emotional fuse.

Why not avoid the triggers that are not necessary to experience?

Pep

Romanticism was an artistic and intellectual movement that originated in late 18th century Western Europe and stressed strong emotion, imagination, freedom from classical correctness .

As a romantic I sometimes enjoy a strong emotion, however, I will not see it. In any event I bet this will be one of those movies that is always on the tele whenever you turn the set on. Thank God I don’t watch much TV.


Regarding the other movie about infidelity with Richard Gere:

I don’t even like the scene where Richard Gere smashes the head of the OM (I feel bad because I should enjoy that scene). In any event I can feel Richard Gere’s pain and I rather not watch any of those movies.

<small>[ December 09, 2004, 01:41 PM: Message edited by: Stanley568 ]</small>

I don't want to see that movie, looks like it would upset me to no end.

That Clive Owen is a cutie though! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Miss Priss, you might not understand how these movies upset people and you might be able to watch these kinds of movies and not let it bother you. But some of us, can see ourselves in these roles or our WH in these roles, and it's all too real.

I think we all understand it's an actor/actress playing a role but sometimes those characters can hit very close to home. Whether it be words that are said, an action that is done, or whatever. I think it's great that you have the ability to "not let it bother you" and you can "choose how you are going to react". I myself have choosen to not let something bother me and well it doesn't always work out the way I had hoped.

I've made up my mind that I am not going to watch this movie, I'm beyond sick and tired of infidelity being everywhere, songs, movies, commericals, gosh you name it. Maybe once I'm further along into MY recovery I'll be able to "choose" my reaction but right now something like this has a way of choosing my reaction for me....

If Julia Roberts gets nominated and/or wins an award for basically playing herself, I think someone should call foul.

I will not see the movie. I am boycotting any movie that Julia Roberts is in because I do not want to support a serial WP and an OW in any way. It's not much, but it is what I can do.

Does anyone besides me think that her FMM/current H/probably future BH comes across as being totally pw'd? I hope his WW/XW is doing great.

My fww had mentioned wanting to see this movie just because she is a big Julia Roberts fan and likes those kinds of 'chick flicks'.

I will discourage the same after reading this. It's not that I imprint my life and situation upon actors on the screen, it's just that I find it counter productive to watch depressing movies when trying to avoid depression and move forward in life in a positive way.

When you are trying to be in a good mood, you listen to upbeat music, not tear in your beer stuff...same goes for movies...