I just received papers today saying divorce papers were filed on December 8th. I don't want to sound stupid, but does this mean I'm not married anymore and the divorce is final.

I did everything I could to save my marriage, even though I was backstabbed and lied to. The OW had this plan, even though my WH is to blame too. She won, she deliberly went out to get my WH and she succeed. No matter whom she hurt, including her own H, whom she divorced this past spring. She even tried to woo my WH family before the affair was known, thinking she could just walk right in and become a member of this family. At least my in-laws realized what a lier and cheat she is and told me she will never become a member of our family. My MIL doesn't even like to hear her name.

Now I'm getting ready for work and it is so hard for me to cope right now, but I got to put myself together so I can go on with the rest of my day.

I made it to work safely...Cried in the car. I can't believe my marriage is over, especially since I still love him so. I always thought he would wake up from his fog and come back home so we can save our marriage. It is hard to save marriage when he moved thousands of miles away with the OW.

HD,

I don't know the answer to your question, but just wanted to say I am sorry you are hurting. Hugs to you. Be good to yourself.