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#1245197 12/19/04 09:59 AM
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I did some digging around last night, on the computer, and found out how to access my husband's virgin mobile account online, so basically I can see a list of every incoming and outgoing call on his phone. It actually wasn't very hard, he doesn't have a computer, so I just went on there typed in his phone number and said I didn't remember the password, it asked for an e-mail address, so I opened up an email account (so it wouldn't be mine--in case he ever gets wise) and it sent me his password.

So I began looking through every call he's made or received (It doesn't tell which is which, it just lists all calls) since he got the phone November 13th, 2004. He claims there's nothing going on with this Shannon girl, well he doesn't call her tons on his cell phone, but why would he have to....they work 2 stores apart, and he has a home phone....but last night he called her (or she called him) from her cell phone...I didn't know it was her phone, just didn't recognize the number, so I dialed it (after blocking my number, of course) and got her voice mail.

He claims when he goes "out" he's going with some obscure person named "Phil", well no one has ever met this Phil, I don't think he exists, and also, he NEVER takes his car....I think this is because I know where this little skank lives, and if I saw his car there I would go completely ballistic.

Everytime I've mentioned that I thought something was going on with her, he said I was wrong.....(his hot rod is in her garage for the winter...because our house has no garage)...that they were just "friends"...I've threatened to beat the living crap out of her on many occasions, and he says "Why Caren? There is nothing going on with her!" on one occasion he actually said "You won't touch her" which was a little too defensive for just a friend. He KNOWS I am very capable of beating her up......he knows how strong I am, and he knows I'll go completely nutso if I find out that is what's going on, so I'm given the mushroom treatment.

What does he think, that after he divorces me, I'm going to be fine with it? That I'm not going to rip her into tiny pieces for all the times I've been lied to? (By her too.....she told me to my face nothing was going on).

I'm absolutely beside myself. I have a male friend who is going through a similar situation, who has hired P.I.'s to follow his wife, he told me that he and his brother would follow him if I wanted......I'm thinking I may have to take him up on that. I have to find out once and for all what's going on......because then, I'm going to expose it to EVERYONE....including her employer....I will tell everyone at every shop in that damn mini mall exactly what's going on. And I'll also make sure that she knows that he's been sleeping with me ALL ALONG.

I just took a Xanax, hoping it kicks in soon, because I feel like going to her candy store and shoving a few hundred pieces of chocolate up her nose. God help me..........I am so angry, I don't know what I am capable of.....

-Caren <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

#1245198 12/19/04 11:08 AM
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Hi Caren! First of all you need to calm down....getting excited is not going to accomplish a thing except make you miserable!

OK, you said he doesn't drive, how does he get to where he is going? Walk? Or does "Phil" pick him up? Do you have kids? i would suggest that next time he and "Phil" want to go out, you tag along. If he throws a fit, denies you, then you have reason to believe there is no "Phil" ...

dont threaten to "beat her up" that is only stooping to her level. It is best if you just play the good guy in all of this mess...I know it is very difficult...What plan are you in? It doesn't sound like you are in any plan at all...you need to ground yourself and start on a Plan A...LBing your WH to death will only push him further away? Do you want to save the marriage? Do not let on that you know how to access you WH phone acocunt...he will only find other means of calling her.

Can you stop by his place of business? If so, do it? Start being the good guy!

Why on earth is he keeping his hot rod at a FEMALES house! I would ask him kindly to remove the hot rod into another garage, not a females...or rent a storage shed. There is not reason his hot rod needs to stay at this girls house.

#1245199 12/19/04 11:34 AM
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Moving....we are currently separated.....been separated since Sept 2004.

I have asked him repeatedly to find someplace else to store his vehicle...he says "You're not going to tell me what to do".

I have been trying to plan "A"....and I won't tell him I can access his phone records....that'll just be my little secret.

-Caren
BW - Me 36
WH - 35
D-Day: Sometime in August 04
1 DD together (2 DD's of my own)
I Moved Out: September 9, 04
Intermittantly Plan A-ing and Flipping Out
Daily contact with WH
Plan B Coming After Holidays


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