Hi. My computer has been down for awhile. I had to go to extremes to get it fixed, but where there is a will, there is a way. I had to get back online. It was killing me !!
My H is still gone OTR, not home since Thanksgiving. He has had days off without telling me until the last minute. Times that I could have gone to see him, but apparently that is not what he wanted.
I highly suspect an A is going on. Probably was going on before he went on the truck. I have a huge bill from the cell phone co. sitting on the counter that I am too scared to open. I believe that will tell the tale of his ways.
He does call almost every night and is pretty nice. Loves me, misses me. I am Plan Aing big time. Borderline bugging him.
He should be able to come home soon. I think maybe closer to that time I will get up my courage to open the bill. I can now go online to check out phone numbers on it.
What do I say to him if and when I find out ???
How do I handle this in my best interest ??
Now that he has been gone and assumming with someone else, I want him back soooo much. It is killing me inside. The usual can't sleep, can't eat....
Please advise as to what and why I should do. I know it makes sense to look at the cell phone records, but I am sooooo scared to face it.

Please help, again.

Car

Carnation...

their is not as much truth in the phone bill on the counter....as their is in the actions of a man that is your husband who has not been home since thanksgiving....

what is up with that...
what type of job is this...
is this how it was supposed to be....
no holiday break...
no newyears break...

what is this job....
and what are your and his plans to do something about it...

ark

So sorry you are here. You will be asked to tell how long this has been going on. For awhile I assume since he moved out in Nov. Have you been to dr's to get ck'ed out. You need to -protect yourself. Read ,read read -there is so much help here. Ck his bill -you will find where he is by phone numbers. You will know everything. Ck previous bills -It is a need to know and to protect yourself. Do you have children? Or are you alone ? Do you work ??

Hi. My H is in training for a large trucking company. He needs alot of hours with another driver and pretty much is at his mercy. The days off he has had have been in another state. The drivers state.
I even went there on Christmas Eve morning to be with him. He said he was worried about me driving but wild horses could not keep me away. We had a very nice time, me probably more than him. When I left, he had tears in his eyes. Unusual for him. Now I think they were tears of pain and confusion. Him hurting me.
We are both in our late 40's. No children between us and married 8 years. I work full time and am home alone all the time. Him out there doing who knows what !!!
I am very concerned about this cell phone bill and really should look at it soon. He is expected home maybe next week. But he really has no reason to be here except to come and see me.

Help again - please and thank you.

Car

so when you ask why he hasn't made more of an effort to see you...or have you two be together..what is his reasoning...

AND
have you two discussed the reality of whether or not this type of job is healthy for the two of your or your marriage...

But he really has no reason to be here except to come and see me.

is he coming next week..
is there a plan for him to come...

what does he say when you say you miss him or need to see him.

what does he say about this situation..

temporary or the new way it is..

ark

Thanks for the replies. I just got home from work. yuck. does make the day go by fast though.
I am really trying not to question him too much. The basic plan he has is for me to join him on the truck. but I do not know if he is just saying this to passify me or he really wants me to - AND do I want to ?
Yes, I definetly want to be with him. But I do not know if that is the life that I want. I am quite angry about the situation. It seems to me that he has chosen this job to get rid of me.
But, no, I do not bring up anything that could cause an argument. We have done that enough in the past and I am trying very hard to show him that I have changed. Plus - I am quite sure there is another woman involved somehow. Someone he had met this summer. There are alot of signs. Perfume, him acting defensive....
The cell phone records will tell me everything I need to know I think. But I am leaning towards looking into them closer to if and when he comes home. Maybe next week, or the next.
Help again, please.

Car