I wanted to ask my H if he wanted to go back to the MC which led to the R talk (I know should not have brought up R talk but I haven't in 2 months). He insisted MC hasn't helped and doesn't think it will... he doesn't love me and didn't when we got married. I also asked him about the exGF... he doesn't want to be with her but he likes to catch up with her every once in awhile. It sounded like the truth but I'm still going to snoop to make sure its not more.

As we were talking, I was trying to give him reasons why he should see a Counselor. The only thing I could think of was "you never tried to work on the M" and "you owe it to us". So he says he'll think about going. But why should I force him to go when he doesn't love me?

I've been Plan Aing officially for 1 month and unofficially for 2 months. I still love him, I take our vows seriously and I want him around for our DD but I don't know what more to tell him.

I guess I just need some insight as to why I'm still trying and maybe some advise with what to say.

mahal-

They all 'say' that. They re-write history. My husband told me, after I presented him with undeniable evidence of the A, that he didn't want to divorce me for her, he wasn't in love with me anymore and hadn't been for a long time, he'd just been going through the motions the last 6 years...BULLSH*T, he also said "I was bored Caren....YOU BORE ME" (I guess that was supposed to offend me....whatever, I'm not boring, not the least bit boring, he's making sh*t up).

It almost makes me want to laugh....and the funny thing is OMG the tapes I have he is lying his ever lovin' @ss off to her: Caren ruined my credit, I don't give a sh*t what Caren does (Really, why do I get drilled about it then?), He's not gonna jump when I say jump. And here's the most idiotic lie I've ever heard in my entire life and I can't figure out why he even chose to lie about this....

When listening to the recording she said "Whatcha doin?" He said "Eating" She said, "Whatcha eatin?" He said "That salami I bought" She said "ohhhhhh" (they're all baby talky..it's pretty gross) Then I hear my number beep in (He has talking caller ID so I hear my name in a computer voice on the tape) He clicks over and says "Hey, I just wanted to shove some food down my throat before we exchanged cars" I said "No problem" Then I said "What'd you have for dinner? Anything good? He said "McDonalds".

Okay....Now someone tell me what the f*** that lie was for, that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my entire life, and unless she's ragging him about not spending money on fast food, then I can't imagine why he'd lie about what he ate LMFAO~~~~~~~~~~~~~

-Caren

One lie after another. Who knows what they are thinking. But I bought the voice recorder although I'll only be able to hear one side of the conversation but if something is going on, that's all I need to hear. So we'll see if he's lying or not.

One lie after another. Who knows what they are thinking. But I bought the voice recorder although I'll only be able to hear one side of the conversation but if something is going on, that's all I need to hear. So we'll see if he's lying or not.