Well here goes I have been married for five years . And I really believe my H is cheating. He hangs out with his friends on Saturday nights and they always seem to be around the same low life women. I constantly hear the same names over and over again. However whenever I ask to go out with him it is always a problem like you never wanted to hang out with me before so why do you know. He say's he doesn't want me to embarass him and start asking the women questions. (Yea whatever)
Anyway whenever he takes my son out on outing or events with his friends this same woman seems to take her children to. (What a coincidence I do not think so) He say's I am just being to jealous. Now he has assured me that he still loves me however we do not do anything together unless I plan it. He use to be so romantic but lately he doesn't want to do anything. I am at the point where I want him out of my house. I have no proof that he is cheating I can just feel it in my bones. He always denies it if I ask him

We have two sons
W 36
H36
Married for 5 yrs

well they say to go with your female intuitiion. Is there some way you can do a surprise visit? Also why is your H going out EVERY weekend with out you?

They always deny - mine did for 2 years till I found their e-mails -the bast**d. He was always the most loving H in the world. My friends even tought I had to be wrong all but one friend. When I found the e-mails I was on the phone with a friedn who had doubts. She freaked out -not that good man. Yeah he was with a woman he worked with. He was verbally abusive to me the whole time and I was preparing to leave him, Saving Money to get away. So your not alone - iif you know where he is going with your son -just show up one day and bring a camera. Say I wanted to get out of the house and join you guys. It syour right after all -and don't men say women have the right to change their minds???

Sounds fishy to me, too. I hired an investigator to get proof for me. If you can't do that, do you have a couple of friends he wouldn't recognize who could check things out for you?
Does he have a cell phone? Have you checked for voice mail and text messages?

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Well he is in sometype of lodge, where on the weekends they either go bowling, golfing, or what else they choose. They have recently started a bowling league so now he bowls on saturday nights. I really believe I am going to just show up one night and see what happens. As for taking my son out anymore I do not think so.He is so stuiped because my son tells me everything, names all the people they were with and what happens.That is how I found out the name of the women who is always with them. At least I know he doesn't do anything in front of my son.

I tried to check his cell phone but I did not find anything,and he does not use the computer at home only at work.