K, I have a question. There is a man named desperatehusband, and has a thread about being new here. We are talking to him about exposure, and I am of the mind that he should expose to the OM's father, his Pastor, without telling his WW first, with emails she doesn't know he has.

However, I remember a while back you posted about POJA'ing all things, as much as possible, to reduce resentment later.

Is this a decision he SHOULD make with his WW? I think, as do some other posters might, that telling her first will reduce the effectiveness of the exposure.

What are your thoughts on this?

Spidey