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This is the first of my exposure efforts. My husband was asked to leave our home on January 10 after a verbal assault on my children. The verbal abuse in our home had escalated over the previous months and this was the last straw.
In the first couple of days that he was out he searched on roommatelocator.com and found a woman who was looking for a male roommate. When he called her she invited him to come over and bring a bottle of wine.
Steve has, in the past, visited prostitutes, had affairs, and alcohol is the identified substance of choice with which he gives himself permission to cheat.
He tried to tell me, when I confronted him about the purchase, that he had only visited with her for a couple of hours. I asked for her number and he "didn't have it." I gave him the option to drive to work to get it (at 11pm) or have me expose all of his sordid past to his boss on Monday morning.
He suddenly "remembered" that I could find her on the same site.
I asked him repeatedly if he had sex with her and he denied it over and over again. Even when I had her number and put him on hold to call her.
She confirmed that he did come there, that they shared a bottle of wine (that he bought) and that they HAD SEX!
I have said since d-day 1 that if he cheated on me again I would expose to everyone I know.
SO HERE IS MY EXPOSURE
My husband
CHEATED ON ME WITH A *******STRANGER THAT HE ONLY KNEW FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS.
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Oh, no. Let me know if there's anything I can do.
When I read this subject, I thought... it cannot be.
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I am so sorry that this has happened to you again. Yet, I am so proud of you for setting your boundaries and not yielding on them!! You are a strong, intelligent and capable woman. Take care of you and of those beautiful kids!
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Words are inadequate, Cerri.
I'm sorry, you're sorry..maybe even he is sorry..the whole world is sorry as ****..but it doesn't really fix anything does it?
Exposure aside..have you previously laid out any concrete plans for this possible eventuality?
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My dear Cerri, My heart goes out to you. Dealing with this on such a personal and professional level does not make it less painful. You are a great coach and know you need to use the skills and tools you have for your family. Your WS is just that and he knows it. The how and why of a WS is the illogic of the world. I know you are hurting but use your skills.....for you and your family. Vent here, reverse babble, plan B as needed, etc. You know the ropes. Let us know how we can help. You got my addy right? Let me know. I would consider it a pleasure to help out what I can. MB hugz for you and your family. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> BTW, that bottle of wine was probably a bad year. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Ws' have no taste and OWs stink. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Aloha, L.
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cerri,
Sorry to hear this. Let me know if you need my help, you know how to reach me.
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cerri - Sorry to hear this. Yep, we live in a very imperfect world. It is very painful to go through this and I am thinking about you and your family.
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<small>[ January 31, 2005, 03:40 AM: Message edited by: cerri ]</small>
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Just wanted to add my name to the list of those offering thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry.....
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Penny, I am SO sorry, my heart just fell when i read this. {{{{Penny}}}} I hope you're not alone right now and thank God you do have so much support to draw from. After everything you've done geez.....I am just sitting here with tears running down my face. I wish it wasn't true. I just don't know what to say, what a blow. Take very good care of yourself, you and the kids are in our prayers. KB
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<small>[ January 31, 2005, 03:41 AM: Message edited by: cerri ]</small>
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Cerri,
I know how upsetting this is for you right now but do you think it wise to leave his name there? Exposure has it's point of reason right?
Just a suggestion.
take care,
L.
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<small>[ January 31, 2005, 03:41 AM: Message edited by: cerri ]</small>
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Besides, I'm following my teacher's advice to "Put it on the evening news."
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Cerri - Hang in there. We are here for you. Your story is quite depressing, but I'm glad that you are sticking to your boundries.
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cerri, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ((((((hugs!))))) Not posting much these days, but after seeing this one, I just wanted to let you know that you are WORTHY. Love in Christ, Miss M
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<small>[ January 31, 2005, 03:36 AM: Message edited by: cerri ]</small>
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Hi Cerri!!
I just happened to be on the board tonight & saw this. I am very sorry. Feel free to let me know if you need anything from the Lone Star State.
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<small>[ January 31, 2005, 03:37 AM: Message edited by: cerri ]</small>
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cerri:
<strong>As a hostile act of violence toward me. And that's the part I just can't comprehend. This is the man who told me on the phone tonight that he loves me <more vomit> and that he'd really like to find a way to recover.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think that is not about you so much. He definitly has issues such as personalities flaw.
jmho
If you are really done ... exposure serve no purpose for your M. I would edit the detail out.
again jmho
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