Noelie...glad you decided to "join" us--certainly sorry for the way you joined us. From the sound of your post, it seems you've already done some reading of the threads. There are many books and tools--and just posting and reading threads--that can help get you past this.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here and there among the innocent victims that have been harmed and hurt, are a few repentant sinners. People who have decided that they will sin no more, and do what they can to start mitigating the harm they have caused.
And finally someday, I too will be able to say that I am no longer defined by my sin, but my repentance!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry to hear that you could not save your marriage. But you sound in such a better place now. No, you can't change the past, and no, I agree with you 100% that your sins do not define who you are. But it's the knowledge and how you repent and your actions TODAY that define who you are. Unfortunately, this is not everyone's perception. But it still helps in a warped sort of way--it helps remind us FWS's where we once were and the pain we caused--but it is not WHO WE *ARE* TODAY.

Glad you joined us...hope to see more of your posts!

Best wishes and blessings,
LINY

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