Hon...no, I completely understand. It would chap my @ss to know that my H was working with the OW. It really shows poor judgement to do that crap at your job anyway, I think someone should have been fired for that...I mean, hello doesn't it cause problems for companies when their employees (even single) date each other...then break up, It's assinine really.

I think that you're justified in your feelings. Is there no way for him to be employed elsewhere? I think that would alleviate a lot of it. Short of that, I guess you'll have to just wait for an out of control bus to take her out crossing the street....LMAO

-Caren

P.S. It's a good thing I'm not telekinetic, I would so be re-routing big old greyhound buses through the OW's candy store she manages! LMFAO

Well here's the thing... he leases an office downstairs in the gym where she works... it is a 5 year lease, but he could break it if he wanted to. He has been there over a year now... excellent location, great monthly rent, very visible, lots of traffic.

Still, it has been a money pit... on a good week he clears $200... he is often stressed, lots of pain in his back, etc. I get very tired of being the "bank" and taking care of all the bils, including his business related expenses, and then cheats on me??? Excuse me, how's that?

But, he IS a good massage therapist, excellent with his hands, technique and energy (and no snickers please, I am meaning this in a strictly therapeutic way, so don't go there!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> )

So I waiver, I do not want him there, but I do want him to support his family, and I figure he could kill two birds with one stone...

The flipside of that is: He has a GED education with machine gunner military experience (not exactly marketable!) and only enough college to earn his certificate and license. The kinds of jobs he could work right now will not support us! Plus, I havestood behind him for more than 4 years and cheered him on "you can do this, we can make this work" when friends and family on both sides kept asking "when is * going to get a real job?!" Lots of hit to his ego! Part of him letting go of his office would be giving in and admitting he was wrong all along, and not sure his ego can take this.

I have even offered an optionof going back to college, getting training in something that doesn't require him to "build a business"...he comes up with real estate school! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> Yup, that is going to be immediately profitable and supportive to your family!!

And they did not fire her over it, not sure why. Word is she has it in good with the H owner, and the W owner is a total flake, seriously. But, they have been out oftown and the Asst Mgr just found out about the A and she is livid! She wants her outta there!! (yeah, yeah!!!) This is a family atmosphere kinda place, not like a singles club sorta gym... she intends to speak to the owners when they get back in town.

I was actually flabbergasted that they allowed her to keep her job. If word gets out to the members... there is way too much competition for fitness around here. They need to maintain their "family appeal" to stay competitive in this market, not sure if they thought it through that much.

Well WH is in our bed behind me, he was sedated for another epidural injection today. It is also his birthday. I bought him a card and a box of chocolate, wanted to keep it simple.

His latest thing is he knows he is not free of the addiction (to sex) and he cannot come back to me and rebuild when he knows he may do it again should the opportunity present himself. He said "there is something really wrong in my brain".... you got that part right, buddy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> What do you suppose that means? Genuine (sounded that way) or just more fog and babble?