My WH is in WV visiting his ailing grandfather. I have encourage him to visit him for awhile now, but he said he wasn't going to visit until DV was final. I think the reason was that way there wouldn't be any guilt of him bringing the OW with him.

I love his grandfather like he was my own. I'm afraid to ask if he brought her with him. I don't think I want to know. It just hurts. When we were dating, he told me I was the only girl he took up to see his grandparents. Which was true. His grandmother has passed on, but I adored them and I know they adored me. He shared so many of his childhood memories with me up in West Virginia (where he spent his summers)and the thoughts of him sharing special moments like that with the OW, just makes me feel sick to my stomach.

I know I can't control the situation, and I don't know why I'm so upset about this. Maybe cause his grandfather is 91 and we decided not to tell him what happen to our marriage for health reason, so he probably has no clue that this woman destroyed my marriage.

His grandfather is the only family member (that we know of) who has cheated on his spouse. I remember my MIL telling me how hurt she was when she found out, she told me "If a girl can't look up and trust her father, who than can she trust". Her father never left her mother, but had several affairs. Maybe my WH takes after him but he decided to leave his wife.