Hi-ya Kandi!!!

I was sitting on the edge of my seat all day, anxious to get home and watch the show!

Kudos on the way you've kept your head up through all this!!!

My favorite part was when you said, "Well, I think I'm much prettier than she is."
To which Dr Phil repled, "Uh.. YEAH." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
I was rolling on the floor!!!

Your Sister By Fire,
Stacia

Hi Kandi --

Remember me? I purposefully don't go on MB anymore -- for one thing it's too addictive and I'm too busy, but I had to come back just to let you know what a wonderful job you did.

I didn't see the show .. I listened to it over my car radio as I ran in and out doing errands. When you said that WH can't get over this addiction, I knew who you were and that you were an MBer!

Even over that radio you "looked" beautiful, pictures I saw tonight on Dr. Phil's site only reinforce that.

I wish for you all the best … Dr. Phil says that you have to “earn” your way out of a marriage, and I believe you have. You deserve better.

I think this part of what Dr. Phil said (it’s on his website … and the pictures of Joi’s reactions to your words are priceless, especially the last one) is something that you and many BS need to take with them for WS who are habitual or have no desire to end their addiction and stop hurting their BS, their children and their family.

Dr. Phil has a message for both Joi and Kandi. "You will mourn the loss. But you know what you will mourn? You will mourn the loss of the man you wish you had. You won't mourn the loss of the man you had."

He turns to Kandi: "What you do is get to thinking, 'This is who I wish Ed was. I wish he was honest, I wish he was committed, I wish he was devoted, I wish he was all of these things that a father and husband could and should be.' And when you mourn that, you will mourn the man you wish he had been — not the man you lost. Because let me ask you this. Read this résumé: 'I will lie, I will manipulate, I will deceive, I will abandon and I will attack you.' Now, what kind of résumé would that be for a husband?"



It’ll will be 3 years for us since D-Day in May … and there still isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about it. . . my trust is gone, and I think it is gone forever. But atleast the triggers don’t hurt any more.

You have grace and style.

I’m praying and pulling for you!

way2

http://www.drphil.com/show/show.jhtml?contentId=3096_familyaffair3.xml

Kandi, how does Ed feel about being made a complete and total jacka$$ in front of millions of people? Did it ever lift the fog any? Did the lightbulb finally go on that what he's doing is NOT OKAY? As he was being ridiculed on national TV, was there any remorse at all or did he just squirm? Did OW just love the part about being on the tube or did she understand just how bad everything she's done is?

You looked posed, intelligent and simply great. Certainly blew the concept of the mysterious, beautiful, sensuous other woman completely out of the water. No Katherine Hepburn, that one.

Today on Dr.Phil you were beautiful, intelligent and articulate. I'm quite sure you were/are an inspiration to many BS's out there struggling to move on. Well done!

Kandi, I was so impressed with you on Dr. Phil today. The other women in the room with me were laughing at that OW on there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I feel sorry for her little girl.

Kandi,
I was so sick yesterday that I was unable to watch or even get up and record the show. My friend who is divorcing saw it, though, and thought you definitely had it together. Anyway, reading through the comments, I see a focus on the appearance of the OW.

That seems to me to be besides the point. You don't need to be the most beautiful woman Ed ever meets in order to deserve his fidelity. He vowed it to you.
Cherished

I REALLY like that Kandi got to see the picture of OW since Dr. Phil pointed out she wouldn't know her if they were in a line together at a store!

Kandi, you needed to see this woman so you would know if she was in the same room with you!!!

How did he get the photo?!

Good for Dr. P and yay for you Mom.

I am thrilled for you getting all that nutrition/exercise support too. You really WILL get stronger emotionally, physically and come out of this as on strong, together, focused, healthy woman!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

MT3B

I'm never able to watch Dr. Phil's show, but made a point of it yesterday.

You did great! You looked great! Your demeanor...IMO, very admirable, elegant, eloquent.

I don't know your full story, but know exactly what you are going thru....even tho my children are grown, and OW is not pregnant.

I find I am still awash in a sea of indecision, and lack of personal direction. I hope to get to the place where, like you, I can finally make a calm, rational choice about MYSELF.

You are at that place. I'm rooting for you.

YOU GO GIRL!!!!

K