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I found out recently that my SI was talking to an old girlfriend of his eventhough I asked him not to. This woman has been trying to find a way back into his life for the last year. When he left her, he was very hurtful to her and now he is feeling remorse for the things that he put her through. She is going through difficulties now because of some things that he did. So he is being her shoulder to cry on. I am not an inconsiderate person but I will not tolerate this and I am trying to find a good way to get him to understand that he is having an emotional affair. She has finally found something to use to get the attention back to her. All he can see is that he did her wrong back then and being there for her now is going to make it right.
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Sorry, I am used to using abbreviations at other sites, significant other
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SI stands for signifigant other?
How long have you been with your "signifigant other"?
How old are you?
-Caren
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I just realized that I wrote SI instead of SO. I guess that is what happens when your mind is somewhere else. I have known him for 19 years. I am 32 years old.
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Well, I think that you need to make it clear to him that his relationship with his X is not acceptable to you. You may also want to read the book "His Needs/Her Needs" together. Also a good thing is to print out the Emotional Needs Questionnaire from this site, and both of you fill one out.
-Caren
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