Here it is. Any advice is welcome.

Dear WS,

I am writing this letter to you and it will be the last one. I have sent many emails and talked to you about our situation but it just not helped. Despite the hurtful things we have said and did over the last 6 months, I still love you very deeply. I love you more than you will ever know.

I want you to remember me as the man you fell in love with and not the person I became during this ordeal. My goal is to take care of myself and go back to who I was because I liked that person. I was energetic, upbeat, kind and always optimistic.

At this point, it is best that we do not contact each other than for the sake of the children. It gives me false hope, which turns into anger and resentment. I did not sleep for 2 nights after I seen you Sunday night which is why I called so angry Tuesday morning. I will never forgive myself for the horrible things I said to you that day.

I am still here for you but it can only be for reconciliation if you chose to do so. I have learned so much about relationships and how to nurture them into something we both so desperately need. I have also learned how to reconcile and get things back to a much more fulfilling relationship than we could ever imagine. If you feel like reconciling at some point, I will become the best husband you could ever imagine. It is not that I will change who I am, but I will change how I give my love to you.

I do not want to dwell on what has happened, but concentrate on what could be. I know you have said that you do not want to go through this again nor neither do I. But, we won’t go through it again if we address the problems in the relationship head on with honesty and compassion.

Enclosed in this package is one of the many books I have read; His Needs/Her Needs. I think this book is wonderful and it describes us perfectly.

My love always,
Keith

Need input everyone!

Okay,

You need to add in there how she can make it back. She may think she can try to reconcile while maintaining contact with the OM. So, a NC letter to OM is a must (put that in there).

Also, think hard about how you will deal with the kids. Having a third party is the best, because you are goingto want to go dark...completely. So say somethign about how all interactions concerning the kids will go thru XXXXXXX (find a person willing to do this), as well as exchanging the kids during visitation. You do not want any contact with her for any reason. You just witnessed why. And it is those contacts that she will use to try to knock you out of your Plan B.

Other than that, it looks good.

In His arms.

Thanks... Need more input!