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seems that things have stalled and I needed to resend some info.....thought I'd share the final letter.


Cpt. xxx,

I spoke with you last month concerning a situation with one of your soldiers and my husband. At this time, I would again like to pass on information in my possession.

I have an extremely sexually explicit email from an army email account, xxxx.xxxx sent to a Yahoo account. This email is quite vulgar, detailing her enjoyment of sexual relations with my husband and her desire to perform oral sex on him.

I also have pictures of xxxxx and my husband that are digitally dated back to March of 2004 from xxxxx. It is clear from these pictures, as some of the pictures are also sexually explicit, that there was an inappropriate relationship between the two of them.

I also have an email dated July 3, 2004 from xxxx to my husband referring to our marriage counseling and xxxxx conversation with me in which she told me she would cease her relationship with my husband. This is also sent from the above mentioned army email account.

At this time, Cpt. xxxx, there is a divorce in progress between my husband and me. I filed the paperwork on January 21, 2005 at his request. He informed me that you and Sgt. xxx had informed him that filing divorce was the only way in which to prevent his loss of clearance, rank and pay. I have a voicemail from him telling me that he does not want me to file for divorce but it is necessary per you and Sgt. xxxx. I realize it was my own naivtee to believe this. As I told Sgt. xxxx in one of our discussions, it was my hope and intent to try and reconcile my marriage and family.

It is apparent by the continuing relationship between Sgt. xxxx and my husband that this is not possible. I had talked with you and relayed my desire to allow Sgt. xxxxx and my husband to discontinue their relationship before proceeding with the complaint against them. Sgt. xxxx is back in San Antonio however, and my husband is still residing in her apartment. I have voicemails dating back to the day you and Sgt. xxx spoke with Sgt. xxxx that show they were not out of contact at all. These were forwarded to my voicemail from my husbands voicemail and I can make them available to you if necessary.

I come to you at this time in part because my husband has continued to tell me that he desires to save our marriage. In fact, he came home 2 weeks ago and has been promising me and our children that he is coming back to live with us and be a family. I have no choice but to assume from his actions that he and Sgt. xxxx are attempting to minimize repercussions of their affair by trying to appease my desire to save my family. It is my belief, although I can not prove it beyond a doubt, that they are trying to "keep the peace" through deceit. I can however prove, an ongoing affair between them that began in March of 2004 and has continued to this day.

Please advise me as to the best way to transfer this information to you. Somehow, during the last visit from my husband, all emails between he and Sgt. xxxx were erased from my home computer. I do however have hard copies printed directly from the email accounts and the printed pictures. I have scanned the select emails and pictures referenced above to my computer and can certainly email that.

In all, I have approximately 80 pages of emails between the two of them as well as a handwritten letter from Sgt. xxxxx to my husband from June 2004. Scanning all of that information would take quite a while so I can mail hard copies of the remaining information if you would like.

As you can see, I have sent courtesy copies to both my husband and Sgt. xxxx. I feel this should be handled out in the open as much as possible to avoid the back hand information that seems to have occurred last month.

Thank you for your help and I look forward to hearing from you,

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Wow. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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I said the other day that I didn't care anymore what happened there.

I was wrong I guess. I want to make sure it goes all the way and nothing gets left to chance.

After being at home for the last three days with a sick baby, who today was diagnosed with two nasty ear infections, two girls who I swear have PMS, a house I'm trying to put on the market and a whole list of things to do before my last day of work in two days....I'm just pissy.

When I talked with him today I told him it would be nice if he could get back here earlier to help with getting the house ready to sell. I could use help with the garage, the shed, the basement...stuff like that. My real estate consultatnt told me today that she wants to list it on Friday and thinks it should take less than two weeks to sell. Yeah. Could use some help.

Dork tells me....no yells at me...that we've been through this a hundred times and he just CAN NOT leave before the 25th. Funny, his little twinkie just got back to SAT.

Jerk.

So, I want to make sure they have ALL the details and nothing gets lost.

Hope I'm feeling better tomorrow. I dislike acting out of spite....but DAMN it feels good right now. I haven't really ever acted out of it and I may regret it....but right now I feel better.

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and he can't leave because ............?!??!?!

I don't get why he is even there? I thought he wasn't working.

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he's not.

he can't leave because.......

he's doinking his girlfriend I assume.

You know, honestly, I am happy to be moving forward with this divorce.

I'm starting a new job, moving to a new place, planning for a future that just doesn't include him.

I just got this little spurt of "screw you" running through my veins tonight. I know it's because I'm feeling overwhelmed with the kids, sick baby, house, work....everything. It's the first time I've really felt anything about this in a while.

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FIM:

You still just "aren't" there yet. That is ok girl, just let it out. Your still probably spending alot of "energy" on this and clealry just haven't FUILLY accepted the reality of this. If you did, you would not have sent that letter. Hopefully in time you will find "true peace" with this. I know you will find it soon.

I am rooting for you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by faithinme:
<strong> I just got this little spurt of "screw you" running through my veins tonight. I know it's because I'm feeling overwhelmed with the kids, sick baby, house, work....everything. It's the first time I've really felt anything about this in a while. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I cannot even begin to imagine what it feels like to be in your position (with the kids and tight finances, etc..) so I won't even try to. You are to be commended for "survivng this fall". Many a man would have long packed it in and quit on life. While I don't think I would have personally made some of the decisions you have made, I so admire you faith. You have certainly more strength than I think I could ever have. YOu humble me.

Goodluck in finding "true peace" with all of this. You will soon.

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Hey Lemonman!

You're right. I'm not completely there yet. Most days I am and it's getting longer and longer between episodes where I'm angry or upset. It is getting there and I'm glad. I know where I'm going and I know what I want. I know I don't want HIM.

It's hard to let go of the anger and dreams. That's what is hardest. It's the illusion of what I THOUGHT was there that is hard to move past.

But, I know it for what it is now. I grieve for and get angry over losing the coulda, shoulda and woulda's.

It's getting better everyday though and each day is one day further from the illusion.

FIM <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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DANG IT!!!! I had saved the beginning and end of the email to draft while I worked on the body of it. I SENT THE WRONG ONE!!!! This is what went through. Now I have to resend! and I had cc'd both OW and Dork <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> DAMN!


Cpt. Txxx,

I spoke with you last month concerning a situation with one of your soldiers. At this time, I would like to pass on information in my possession and pursue a formal complaint.

Thank you for your help and I look forward to hearing from you,

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You are one formidable woman. And your husband is giving you up for ..... a real piece of work. I am really impressed with your letter. Strong? Hell, you're an Amazon general! (That is a compliment.)

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Bellevue:
<strong> You are one formidable woman. And your husband is giving you up for ..... a real piece of work. I am really impressed with your letter. Strong? Hell, you're an Amazon general! (That is a compliment.) </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">....and it is accepted as such, Bell. Thank you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by faithinme:
It's the illusion of what I THOUGHT was there that is hard to move past.

But, I know it for what it is now. I grieve for and get angry over losing the coulda, shoulda and woulda's.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">(This) knowledge is the most important step toward healing... To know it is Not Him you are mourning...


You'll be fine! As you know <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by faithinme:
<strong> DANG IT!!!! I had saved the beginning and end of the email to draft while I worked on the body of it. I SENT THE WRONG ONE!!!! This is what went through. Now I have to resend! and I had cc'd both OW and Dork <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> DAMN!


Cpt. Txxx,

I spoke with you last month concerning a situation with one of your soldiers. At this time, I would like to pass on information in my possession and pursue a formal complaint.

Thank you for your help and I look forward to hearing from you, </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So resend him and his uppers the correct letter but do not send WS and OW a corrected copy. Let them fizzle in their pants wondering what you really sent. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Maybe dang it letter is even better! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

"Cpt. Txxx,

I spoke with you last month concerning a situation with one of your soldiers. At this time, I would like to pass on information in my possession and pursue a formal complaint.

Thank you for your help and I look forward to hearing from you,"

Introduction <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
The rest upon Hearing from him, while they fizzle... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Sigh.

The emails disappeared from your home computer.

Good thing you have hard copies <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

They think they are neutralizing you?! Ha!

They are both SO clueless.

You are in the right stage right now FIM. You are dealing with things in the proper way.

How does the job you were excited about look?

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Hi, FIM.

Please have a trusted friend, knowledgeable about computers (and I don't mean the kid down the street) check your machine for spyware, trojans and viruses.

All the best,
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Hi Gimble...

"Please have a trusted friend, knowledgeable about computers (and I don't mean the kid down the street) check your machine for spyware, trojans and viruses."

I was just wondering what your thoughts were behind your post. Do you think FIM's wh may have done something to her computer?

Do you know how one would check for all those things?

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Hey, the short version is just perfect!! The long version was pouring out your feeling, but it wandered and didn't really come to the point. Really, the short version is much better for sending to the officer.

Photocopy the 80 pages and send those to follow up. He will have to read them all (since you didn't summarize them in a long letter) and then draw his own conclusion.

The handwritten note is valuable. Email could be forged, although most people don't know how. But if they sent email through military servers, it was probably archived somewhere, so don't worry about that at all.

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FIM - have you or have you not sent the letter yet?

If you have not, I suggest you NOT cc the infidels right away. Wait a few days.

Also, can you work in the terms, "character and reputation", "trustworthiness", and "reliability"??? - as in NOT!

Reason: These are buzz words frequently used in determining security access authorization.

I do not want these two entrusted to protect my safety and that of my country.

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ditto, at least not in their current fogged state. Hi faith, keep going girl. You are my hero. Hugs-Jersey Girl

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