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As I was putting my four year old to bed tonight. He said something that made me walk away in tears. He looked at me so serious and said "Mommy, I am the little Daddy. I will take care of you." As I walked away after kissing him and hugging him he whispered that his Daddy told him to take care of me.

That broke my heart. It's sad that a four year old has to feel this way. His father is out somewhere with his OW not seeming to care at all. Yet it made me proud that I raised such a smart, sweet and caring little boy.

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Oh dear. That is painful. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

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OK.

The topic caught my eye. But mine are funny, not the pull at your heartstrings quips. Hope you don't mind NIML.

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My oldest was about 11. Past the age where he can get away with skipping a shower a day and no one noticing. So he is out playing soccer with a friend one Saturday morning. He comes in the house all sweaty and stinky. Foul enough that the wife notices, I notice, and we can't believe he is not noticing as the wallpaper peels off when he passes.

So the wife, in horror, says "Oh my gosh, son, you really STINK!"

To which he looks at his friend and says, "Yeah. I think I'm hitting poverty."

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My youngest is now 5 and learning to read. He is reading the cereal boxes, and carrying on like a 5 year old. Tarrying along, and not eating fast enough to get ready for school. The older two have finished breakfast and left the table. I am in the kitchen doing the dishes, alone with DS #3 who is finishing his breakfast and babbling away. I am about half-tuned in to him when he says in a clear, distinctive voice.

"Cheerios can help lower your testicles."

Which immediately gets my attention. I walk over to the cereal box and correct him, saying "Son, that spells 'cholesterol'."

Can't believe I kept a straight face through the exchange.

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<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Oh Maryland <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Between you and Octobergirl I'm crying....you guys are going to have me on a cross country OW killing spree.

-Caren

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ncwalker:
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"Cheerios can help lower your testicles."


Can't believe I kept a straight face through the exchange. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">what a hoot! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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NC,
That is funny. My four year old when he was two would always come to me and ask for ocean. We were like what is ocean. He got into the fridge and pulled out the orange juice and said "This." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

He loves Thomas the Tank Engine. He goes around singing the theme song. But it's Thomas the Tank Kitchen. We laugh and laugh.

Also he jumps on my back and says "Mommy, give me a piggy bank ride." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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My stepson on Valentines evening saw that I was upset and crying. He made me a card and hugged me and said "Mom at least you still have me."

I have some very sweet loving kids.

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Am I reading your signature line right?

So you met this step son (WH son, right?) when he was 6 and now he is 9 and his REAL dad is off doing the WH thing and he is looking at his step-mom and saying "You still have me."

THAT is a testimony.

I sometimes wonder if I would be able to love a step-kid the same as my own. Apparently it is possible. Thanks, NIML, that truly was a bright spot in my day.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by New&ImprovedMarylandLady:
<strong> "Mommy, I am the little Daddy. I will take care of you." </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Those four year olds sure wear their hearts on their sleeves. I love their total honesty even if it can be a bit painful at times.

Cheers,

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My son (3) loves to say: "Mum, I'm big and strong like my dad!"

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I'm getting more and more 'grey charms' <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> and have to color my hair... when my son plays on my head and sees roots, he says: Mommy, it's there again, you have to color it again!!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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This happened today:

We went to some stores, and one of places we planned to go is to buy a 'tool box', for I see how much he loves 'repairing' at home <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

So, he saw a toy and wanted it 'badly'.
I said - let's go over there to look for tool box we came for; he said - ok, but I want this one too.

Then, he saw the Bob the Builder truck, big (and expensive!) and, of course, forgot the previous one wanting this one 'badly'

I said - let's go over there I want to see something.

He said - Mum, don't dare even to try to trick me, for I do want this one!

And he's just three... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Actually I met him when he was three. At first it was so hard to accept that the man I loved and dated could not give me his complete attention. Especially because when we went out on dates he went with us. Very few times did we have someone to watch him. But in time I fell in love with both of them.

That is why I question my husband with this OW. She is 21 and a college student and her whole life ahead of her. And she wants to be with a man that has obligations and responsiblity that will tie her down IF they would ever get into a serious R. She can say she accepts his children. BUT the fact is she has never been around them or met them. So until they are a part of her life she cannot say she accepts him and his children. She has no idea how hard it really is. I do because I have been there. But she does not have to worry about my kids ever. They will not be around her at all. My husband already agreed on this and said he would put it in our separation agreement IF we do get that far. But who knows he has went back on his word so many times before.

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BTW,
That is funny. Everyday they say something new, funny or sweet. It's wonderful to be a parent.

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It's funny how they mock what they see. I am always going around cleaning up little things or closing doors and such.

My four year old will go around closing doors, racing around before bed saying he needs to clean up the mess, putting the lid down on the toliet and stuff. He is a little neat freak when it comes to grown up stuff. But his toys are a different story. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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Early in the morning my son came over in my bed. I pulled him close and told him that he didn't have to take care of me. That I will take care of him always and I love him. I wanted him to know it wasn't his job to take care of me. He just smiled and hugged me back.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by New&ImprovedMarylandLady:
<strong> It's funny how they mock what they see. I am always going around cleaning up little things or closing doors and such.

My four year old will go around closing doors, racing around before bed saying he needs to clean up the mess, putting the lid down on the toliet and stuff. He is a little neat freak when it comes to grown up stuff. But his toys are a different story. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sounds like my DD3. She is a hoot or a hinderance depending on how close it is to my bedtime. She knows where everything is usually kept so I usually can not get away with put item X in a different spot.

Of if I am assembling something and do not get all of the wrappings thrown out soon enough she calls me a messy boy.

The thing I find the cutest and hate the most is when she echos me or El when trying to get DD13 or DS11 out of bed in the morning. She acts just like a little mommy.

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Hi maryland lady,

I was glad to read your last post where you told your son that it wasn't his job to take care of you.That was horrible of your WH to put that kind of thought in your your son's mind.Children do not take care of parents like he suggested.

Like you,I am thoroughly enjoying being a parent.I feel so fulfilled being here for my girls.I feel blessed that I am the one who is making their hearts and minds happy so that,God forbid,they were no longer here,they had a loving,safe and secure and fun life,however long that lasts.I will make sure of it as long as I am alive!

Take care~

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Wow.
A little boy of four is right in the midst of his Oedipal phase (Freud's stages of development).
They want to be with their mommy more than anything and see daddy as a rival.
It is so sad when daddy is a pitiful rival and the boy feels that they must step up to the plate.

You said and did the exact right thing.

Way to go.

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KIDS ARE THE BEST!!!!

My 3 yo tells me he is "baby daddy" but that means that he gets to sleep with mommy when daddy is out of town on business.

A couple of weeks ago I played "nine and go sneak" with my 5 yo, it's a lot like hide and go seek.

On the heart breakers it was my 11yo looking at me on one of the many nights me and the kids ate out late cause mommy hadn't come home and saying is OM mommies boyfriend? That made me realize I had to make my stand.

Always remember that IT'S A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE!!!!

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Thanks for sharing some of the little things your kids have said. Some made me laugh and some made tears come to my eyes.

Nobody in their right mind can say that this doesn't affect children. I have noticed little things that my sons have been doing. Things that they have never said or done before. My four year old when he does something that upsets me and he gets in trouble will start crying and asking over and over again if I still love him. Of course I always tell him yes that just because he does something bad doesn't mean that I would ever stop loving him.

My stepson seems to have a lot of anger lately. And is having trouble at school again. He will often tell me that if his Dad and me separate that he wants to live with me. I ask him why... He says that I never leave like his Dad does and that I take care of him. He also said last week that it doesn't feel like he has a Dad anymore.

My brother’s children who have also recently been in a home where there was infidelity. Told my mom to tell my children to just be good, not fight and make sure their rooms were clean. That broke my heart. These kids think they have done something wrong. No matter how much you reassure them that they did not.

I get blamed that I feed the kids heads. Why in the world would I want them to hurt more than they already are? I also get told that I use the kids against my husband. NO I just feel that he does not even see what he is doing to them. So yes I do remind him about the kids. When you have children shouldn't they come first before a OW? My husband's OW comes before his kids. He hasn't talked to my stepson since he dropped him off at school 8:30 on Friday morning. And that was the last time he held the baby or saw my son. When he is with the OW most of the time he turns his phone off and does not check his voicemail for days. If there was ever a emergency he would not even know. Even his mom has been trying to reach him and she cannot. To put a woman above your children, family, work and etc... Something is really really wrong.

I just hope he realizes one day the damage he is causing. And take the steps to get help and become the responsible man he once was. The man I met and married was totally responsible, caring and a very good father. I felt totally loved, wanted and needed. Still do sometimes. But lately his addiction to this girl has taken over his life.

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When I was a teenager, before I had my own kids, I was driving my mother's 4th husband's grandson around (confused?). [*edited* to correct, it was my mother's 5th husband, my 4th step-dad. Sheesh! Now I'M confused!]

He needed to go somewhere in our town, and his parents told me he could direct me there, he knew the area well.

So, we are driving around and around, and I said, "Are you sure you know where we are going?"

And he goes, "Yes! I'm telling you, I know this area like the back of my head!"

I don't think we ever got where we were going, and if we did, we were too late when we got there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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