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exactly what do you mean when you say you "checked reservations"?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FogLight:
<strong> OK Gimble, I changed that word and its printed. Now:

1. Should I give this to her in person?

2. Put it in her car to find?

3. Email?

??

FL </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">A steely-eyed hero would hand it to her in person, with a big smile, and an "I love you beautiful!". Then walk off.

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WAT - I know the hotel she is staying in - have been there myself. Their training facility is actually attached to it. I called pretending I was OM and that I had a temp yesterday and she was supposed to make reservations for me. They not only checked that hotel but others in the area for me.

Gimble - In person huh - I can do that too!

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I understand, but why would OM get a separate room?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FogLight:
<strong> Gimble - In person huh - I can do that too!
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Good deal. If your handwriting is legible, consider writing the letter by hand instead of giving her the printed copy.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Gimble:
A steely-eyed hero would hand it to her in person, with a big smile, and an "I love you beautiful!". Then walk off.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I love this suggestion. Very powerful statement doing it in person!!!!!!

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WAT - Many others from here are also going to Pittsburg and I don't think she would risk being that tied up with OM. But yes its possible.

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FogLight.

It would be good to get you and wife to the point of 'no contact' before the trip.

How does your wife feel about her job?

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Her job is very stressfull but, she has been there 20 years. Has talked about quitting before and doing something else.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FogLight:
<strong> Her job is very stressfull but, she has been there 20 years. Has talked about quitting before and doing something else.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, it is early yet, but when NC is established, the job may need to go. Don't talk about that with her. You can cross that bridge later.

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Gimble, WW called and wants me to go shopping w/her tonight. What about giving the letter to her to read while i'm driving??

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FogLight:
<strong> Gimble, WW called and wants me to go shopping w/her tonight. What about giving the letter to her to read while i'm driving??

FL </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If your son will be with you, then yes, otherwise, do it when she can have some time to herself.

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DS may or may not be with us. I could probably work it either way. He would support my decision.
Do you think his presence would make a difference?

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Re-thinking, the best scenario would be after the three of you have returned from shopping, and son is in bed.

Whichever way you go, the manner that you give it to her, like I outlined previously, is important.

Her having just had a good family time is probably the best time, but those types of situations may or may not occur on a reasonable timetable. So, use you best judgment.

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Thanks Gimble, I'll just play it by ear. Wish me luck and thanks.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FogLight:
<strong> Gimble, WW called and wants me to go shopping w/her tonight. What about giving the letter to her to read while i'm driving??</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hmmmm - could depend on what you're shopping for?

Bass boat?

Pearls?

Better stick with Gim's suggestion.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FogLight:
<strong> Thanks Gimble, I'll just play it by ear. Wish me luck and thanks. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Don't expect a miracle. She may get mad or weepy or stoic or something else. Take whatever comes and deal with it head on. You are the hero here.

As for the luck;

I pray that God will richly bless your efforts in reconciling your marriage.

Gimble

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