Hem,
I haven't posted here for a long time, and was just reading some posts and had to respond. I am reconciled with my H for just over a year. I had had an EA for over a year. Long story, I wasn't still in the EA, but after over a year of MC and problems we had separated (1 yr) and D was almost final.
One month before D was to be final, we reconciled. I too thought I didn't love him anymore. I thought although I wasn't in the EA anymore, that I would always love OM and so on. I had alot of forgiveness that had to go on in my heart in order to love H again. I have to say that my faith and his got us through that.
Here we are just over a year later. Let me tell you, it has been very very hard. Rebuilding and changing an old cyle and relationship is hard, very hard. But, we did it. We have a better relationship than ever. I love him more than ever. Is it perfect? Heck no, and still we stip back on occassion. But, it is worth it, and can happen. I was told by someone that when the love is gone it can't come back. I think it can. I know it is hard work, but it can.
Like I said, it isn't easy, it is hard, hard work but it can happen. I have children and the bonus is they have witnessed a very unhealthy relationship, unfortunatly and a separation, but now they both see a healthy relationship. I have a 15 year old daughter who has said, I was sad that my parents separated and almost divorced, but I HAVE a relationship with my Dad now which I never had, my Dad doesn't yell and curse all the time now he has changed so much and that makes me so happy....
So, yes you can fall back in love and the whole family can become better..
(sorry I ramble a bit <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> )
