Happy Mother's Day from your MB family!

Thank you for the Mother's Day wishes, New Jersey:) I hope everyone had a great weekend.

I'm doing fine but thought I would give a quick update since things changed a bit over the last week.

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Did I scare you? I'm still getting a divorce:)

Not until THIS Friday though. In Washington there is a mandated parenting class prior to a divorce with children and I had put mine off until the day before. Well, the class was cancelled and so I had to reschedule for this Friday.

I was extremely disappointed at first...but this is kind of funny.

It will be on Friday the 13th!! HA HA.

It's also exactly one year, to the day, that he told me he wanted divorce.

How fitting!!

The call for a divorce had come out of NO WHERE. I wasn't even remotely expecting something like that from him. It sent me into months long physical and mental breakdown.

Now, one year to the day, look at where we are.

It's amazing to me the many paths that our lives can take.

I just chuckle when I think about the entire timing issue of it.

He still goes back and forth from anger at me for moving on to asking if we can work on things. The other day he asked me to try until September.

I said "No."

"How about the end of summer?", he says.

"No."

"Through June?"

"No."

"How about the end of the month?"


"Um. No."

"End of the week?"

"No."

Idiot!

It is amusing, in a sick and twisted way, though.

We had worked out a part in the divorce where he volunarily agreed to not ever have OW around the kids. This is a few weeks ago. Then, about a week ago he tells me he's not comfortable with that because it is such a "blanket" statement.

Yep. It was meant to be.

So, that became an issue for him. I was going to push it, and did for a while, but he has now agreed to 5 years. I don't know if it would even hold up in court if he challenged it down the road, but I still want it there.

Anyway, yesterday I heard through the grapevine (one of my closest friends who he is trying to borrow some furniture from) that he admitted to being in contact with OW again.

I had just told a friend of mine that I had a feeling he was in touch with her since he decided he wanted a change to the agreement. Of course, he denied it. Many times. He really does still think I'm an idiot.

Oh well. You may remember way back when..... he had been telling me how the divorce wouldn't hurt the kids and he was going to be a part of their lives every single day and we would all see each other.... yada yada yada, blah blah blah.

Well, he's still delusional in that respect too. We've worked out a 50/50 schedule with the kids. Only problem is that he stops in at my house whenever he wants. If I'm not home, he goes through a window OR is now threatening to pick the locks if he wants in and I'm not here.

He wants to stop by to see the kids every night when I have them and thinks it's a smart idea to bring them by before school on the days he has them.

I know that this whole fantasy was a way to justify his A and the D. I just still can't believe he is trying to live it out now!

Anyway, there is more, but I'm in a hurry. I just wanted to drop a quick update.

I am happy and moving on. I'm loving the coincidence of the date of the divorce too. Just can't stop laughing about that one.

Take care,

FIM

FIM:

You are a success story. You stopped the insanity.

You SAVED your life and children's life from your WH. There is nothing honorable about continuing to fight for a dysfunctional marriage with a serial cheater and abuser.

Sadly, some others will never "figure" that out untill they have destroyed any self of self worth or self esteem.


LM

Har-har-har'ing here ... "Yes, it is a blanket as a matter of fact ... a blanket to protect our kids from harm."

... what a weenie

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I'd change "what a weenie" to "what a pr!ck", but yeah, it all fits. Didja get my new cell....if you're coming down here, call me. I've a couple of appletinis with our names on them!

Kimmy

I cannot imagine how he could worm his way back. You have given him too many chances. He has walked all over you for the past few years with serial affairs. There are some marriages that can be saved, but some cannot. It is up to the people in the marriage to know. Hugs. You really have done your best.

By the way, I agree that the OW or for that matter any other woman not married to dork should be around the kids. I believe this would make it all too easy for him to throw his parenting duties onto someone else and children should not be exposed to an immoral lifestyle. JMHO

Well-today is the day. Please remember that as God closes a door he opens a window. Hugs.

Hi, FIM.

I've been thinking about you today.

I hope all is well with you and kids.

God bless,
Gimble

Hope you're OK, FiM. I thought about you all Friday 13th. Please take care of yourself...

TogetherAlone

FIM,

How did the class go? How are you?

From one of the many who have been thinking of you.

Aloha,
L.

I THINK the divorce was pushed back yet another week! I spoke to her last week (I think) and I remember he saying it was pushed back...she sounded very well! She is happy and doing very well! I hope she pops in here soon!

No news is good news. Hope you are doing OK.

Hope you're enjoying the rain, and everything has been resolved for your family.

Is today the day?

Well, really, FIM, please check in. We're worried about you for gosh sakes, girl! When you disappear like this it usually means something has not gone the way you hoped it would and you don't want to talk about it. That is fine. Just log in and tell us you're OK, okay? Then you can go back to the shadows.
((((HUGS)))).

~ Snow

bump

Yes, we love you no matter what you choose to do. Only you walk in your shoes. Hope you are doing OK. Remember-we will stand by whatever choice you make. I can only imagine the Dork bending over backwards and the OW chasing after the both of you. Sometimes a man has to hit bottom before he can get up.

<bumpity bump>

I second what new jersey said.

bump...where are you?

Has anybody got FiM's addy? Has anyone heard from her? We're all a bit worried and would love to hear that everything is OK. Anybody?

~ Snow