I'm sure she used to be in touch with Mom23Boys. She's usually on the OC Board. tt

Last I heard her divorce was going to take place, errr, I cant remember the date...but it was the Friday AFTER we talked...her H got his own place and was trying desperately to reconcile...but she really is very adament about the divorce..>I have not talked to her since the divorce was final...and as far as I know, I dont think it was put on hold again. I can call her this weekend and see what is going on.

Oops! I'm so sorry I haven't been here to update in such a long time. My internet connection went down and I haven't had it fixed since I am moving this weekend.

Here's the scoop...very quickly because I am supposed to be packing but am at a friends house using the computer and her phone since the TWO cell phones I have are gone (one is at a friends house 40 miles away and XH has the other one!!)

Divorce is FINAL!! (May 20) Yippee, whoo hoo, jumping up and down JOY!

The house closes on Tuesday, June 1st.

I finally got a rental house (2 days ago). That's cutting it close even for me.

Things are going fairly smooth. XH still has this screwed up idea of dating me now that we're divorced. Idiot.

We have split custody and he is doing a great job with the kids again and is supporting them as well as spending a lot of time with them.

um.... that's the quick lo-down.

As you can guess, I have a much more detailed update that I can give when I have the time.

Thank you for looking in on me and sorry it's been so long since I popped in. I will be here much more once I get my dang internet hooked back up.

Hope your kids are doing well and adjusting.

Pep<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for letting us know, FiM - we were worried about you. Am praying for you and your children. Take care of yourselves.

TogetherAlone

It sounds like you are so busy at the moment. I'm sure you are relieved this messy business has reached a conclusion. Hold on tight for the ride of your new life. Good luck. TT

Whew, I can start breathing again. Good to hear from you FIM. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Will await more info when you can. Have a happy move...... (is that even possible)???? LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

Thank you for checking in FiM. Computer problems are a total pain, aren't they?

I am just glad all is going well for you. Hope your new place works out well. Glad to hear, too, that dork is stepping up and being a dad again. In the kids' case I don't think it is too little too late, as long as he keeps it up.

Best of luck to you! Talk to you later.

~ Snow

Hope the closing went well. It will be nice for life to finally get into a new routine. How are the girls doing? Just want you to know that I'm thinking of you.

And hope the move is going well and internet is back up soon... Thinking of you!

That's great you have good news rather than bad.

WH is finally a FWH. As we discussed earlier. His timing is crummy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Looks like summer is coming for us. I hope the move goes well. I hate moving!

Sleepless

hope you are getting settled. Just checking in on you. Jersey

Inquiring MBer from the middle of the great big blue wants to know....... howz it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

L.

So happy for you FiM!!! Well, one less MBer I have to privately worry about. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Seems I wasn't the only one holding their breath til we heard something. hehe Been wondering about you but missed your update due to me being busy with preparations for the baby.

Again, so happy to see you stood up for yourself and kids and are forging ahead!

B u m p .

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Hello everyone:)

I FINALLY have internet access again. It's hard to believe how dependant I had become on it.

The kids and I are in our new house. It's smaller and in a less desirable part of town but it is ours and it is slowly becoming more of a home as I finish unpacking.

On the personal front, I am doing so much better than I had imagined possible a year ago. When I look back at where I was last year I can't even recognize who I was.

I wasn't able to eat. I couldn't sleep. I was on tranquilizers and thought my world was crashing down around me.

Today, I am thankful for what I went through because of what I can see now and the life I am beginning to build for myself and my children.

It's a bit odd to be looking back over such an emotional time. I didn't even realize that while I thought I was fighting for my family I was really in a process of mourning. I realized long before I ended the marriage that it was over and didn't even acknowledge it.

I read over some of the posts from the last months before I filed and can see it now. I look over my actions and truly review my feelings and can see so much more than I could from the eye of the storm.

I have a friend who lost her sister not too long ago and for a while she was in denial about it. She just couldn't accept that her sister was gone and she would never have her back.

That's the best way I can think of to describe what I could have been thinking at the time.

Anyway...there's my little self-psychoanalysis for the day.

Right now my life is getting better and better every day.

AND.... I am dating. Right now I am dating a great guy. I count myself lucky to have met him and couldn't be enjoying myself more.

As for the kids, they are doing very good. I have to say that it is not an easy transition for them but I think that the fact Dork had been gone for so long and that he had walked away before actually has made the divorce easier on them.

They hadn't seen mom and dad together in a loving relationship for almost two years. As sad as it is, I think that the deployment and his subsequent abandonment helped them to deal with the separation and divorce better than they would have otherwise.

Now that I FINALLY have the internet back I plan on getting here regularly. I looked at the names of the posters and don't even recognize half of them. Sadly, there will always be new members to keep the board full.

I can't thank everyone enough for the support that has enabled me to come through such a difficult time in my life. This board and all the people who have advised and checked in and kept up with me have been central to my own healing and ability to walk forward a (hopefully) better person.

A very wise MB'er has said many times that he considers himself an MB success story even though his marriage did not make it through the affair.

I had a hard time understanding that when I first came here.

Now, I consider myself to be a success story too. Not because my marriage did or didn't make it. But because of who I came out of this as and what I now have the opportunity to make of my life.

Have a wonderful weekend and thank you for looking in on me.

FIM

FIM -

Glad you checked in with us. I just filed for divorce last week. I felt really bad the first couple of days, but now am feeling relief. Soon I'll be out of that sleezy mess.

Of course, it is much more difficult when there are kids involved. But I'm happy that your family is doing well.

Hi FIM. You sound in a good place to be! Did dating help you to get through the Divorce process easier - like there was a reward on the other side waiting for you? Does that make sense? Just curious. TT Oh, and how are your kids and exH dealing with your new boyfriend?

Believer,

I am sorry that it came to the divorce...but I am so happy for you to be moving forward. You were one of the first people to respond to me and get me through some of those nights right before Dork came back from his deployment.

You are such an incredible woman, Believer, and you deserve so much more out of life...and you've gone out to get it for yourself. You are an inspiration girl!

So, I am happy to hear you are seeming to feel better about your decision. Again, I am sorry that divorce is the consequence of the last few years. But I can't wait to see how your life continues to blossom by your pruning the dead stuff out to make room for all the new growth <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />