No I haven't

She hasn't been in attack mode lately, has she? I think she's going to try to talk to you. She also might want to know where you are.


I can't help but remember that this is exactly what my FWH did, found out from my realtor what houses I was looking at and where I was moving.

You're probably right Mimi...I hope so

I was thinking of the drive-bys, and wanting him to have some peace to settle into his new home without her confronting him.

And...not only that. #1S is helping me move in next week on his day off. I know he doesn't want (and I don't want this for him either) to be there if she comes by and make it look like he is "choosing sides".

Oh well...not much I can do about it now.

Georgia

Realistically, this probably could not have been prevented.

If she comes on your property, she would be trespassing, restraining order or not.

Have your cell phone at hand while moving in order to call the police. Go in the house and lock the door.

DARK is the best you can do right now.

I HATE THIS FOR YOU!

The Days of Our Lives.....

Okay, now it is my turn to vent a bit. Just sit tight, then 2X4 me if you want.

For a long, long time I heard all about WW wanting her independence, wishing she had never married me, knowing that her happiness is in Vancouver, etc....

So why is it that when I hand it to her on a silver platter she can't just say "thank you" and be done with it? Why does she have to chase me around, call me, tell everyone that she knows how unhappy she's been, etc.

Why can't she just let Attack Dog do her best to bleed me dry and let me live in peace?

There....back to my regularly scheduled thread.

Georgia

You know the answer to your questions, right?

We've been through all of this, right?

I'll be happy to answer, though.

You know it's rhetorical....

I am, officially, vacating the premises. I am hungry as I worked through lunch. Jeb's at his GP's as my refrigerator went out (in the apartment) last night and the landlord is supposed to bring in another one today.

So..I'm leaving to go to get something to eat, go to Best Buy, go the the city water dept to start water service (you have to go IN PERSON, isn't that silly?). Then home to paint and pack.

I have this sinking feeling that I'm going to have a visit from WW tonight. I SO don't need that right now.

I may play some basketball in the 'hood this afternoon. Always helps me keep in perspective what is really important.

Thanks for being there to all of you.

Georgia

She wants both of you, Georgia.

-AD

DING! DING! DING!

AD has the RIGHT ANSWER!!

FGG:

I just thought of something. Sorry for the threadjack here, but your description (and the pic2re) of Jeb made me think about this... My W used 2 say she "hates dogs." She used 2 get really critical of people who spend money on their dogs. Lately, it's just she doesn't understand why they do, but she doesn't hate them anymore.

I think it's just one of the "victim" areas of her affair and her 2nd life construct. When she was in girl scouts as a teen, before I knew her, she had a long haired dog named "Hippie". She says she loved that dog. But when she was gone on a camporee (or someplace), the dog got out and nobody noticed before it had been picked up and euthanised. She's never been able 2 get close 2 pets since.

End of threadjack, back OT.

If your W DOES drive by, wouldn't it be great 2 see you happily shooting hoops with Reggie? ...so long as she doesn't stop, that is.

-ol' 2long

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Good Morning to all -

Welcome back, cc.

A pretty good weekend, all things considered. There was no visit from WW, which was a pleasant surprise.

Reggie and I played one game of "dog" and one game of "Georgia". Then we just shot some hoops for a while. He really enjoys that, I'm going to miss seeing him every afternoon.

I started packing up stuff getting ready for the move. I've got to admit that I have found it to be a bit more of an emotional experience than I had anticipated. I don't really know why, but it's like the memories of my clandestine move into the place in January come back to haunt me. Also, I see how little I have to move right now and the reality of this whole situation.

Yesterday in Sunday School an old friend of mine and his wife visited. He was the HR Manager for my employer and actually is the guy who hired me (almost 24 years ago). After a few years of butting heads (as much my fault as his), we became good friends. He and his 1st wife divorced about 15 years ago, and he would call me to his office to pray with him. He eventually remarried.

About 5 years ago he was sidelined with some kind of yet to be completely diagnosed neurological disorder that affects his mental capacity as well as causing him a lot of physical pain. He had to retire, but he and I stayed in touch and had lunch from time to time and played pool at our church gym.

Anyway, I hadn't seen him this year and he didn't know. So..I talked to him privately and told him what was going on. He was, needless to say, shocked. But, he said that they would be back to the class. That is really good because he and I have been very close friends and I have been with him through his rough times, I could use his continued friendship right now.

Speaking of...as I was typing this, he called and we talked a long time. During his D, he drank very heavily and that turned into a significant problem for him. He called to tell me that he wants to be there to help me and make sure that I don't go down the same path that he did.

Interesting note....his (2nd and current) wife retired from teaching last year. She was a H.S. math teacher and taught #1DIL when she was in H.S. She once gave DIL detention for talking in class. (You've got to know DIL to realize the humor of this, DIL has a hard time NOT talking so I'm sure she deserved it!).

Anyway, closing in just over 24 hours on the house. It is getting really close now, things are looking good. My landlord is showing the apartment again this afternoon, it's looking really good now because I finished painting Friday night.

Alright, work to be done.....

Georgia

P.S. GOOD MORNING, MIMI....

Good Morning to you, Georgia!!

Keep looking forward!!

CC:
How about an update on your thread? How was your trip? What about your house plans? What about OW in your D's class?

We care about you!!!

G'morning GG,

I always look for your updates - but don't usually have anything to say.

I think you were spared a painful scene this weekend. I'm glad your W didn't show up, but I suspect that a tiny part of you wanted her to. Well maybe not such so tiny part.

Maybe, since you've been parking out back, she thinks you moved already.

I'm starting the move into my "other" house. So far it feels better than I expected. I lived there for 17 years in my former life, but it certainly doesn't feel like home now. There's a lot to do - and $$$ to pay before I'm really in there and set up to go. I doubt if my moving will have any beneficial effect on my W - because, in part, I would be moving into the place she wants me to be in after the D - so, in a way, she can still feel somewhat in control. The only thing that's not going as she wants is the timing.

Well, enough about me on your thread.

I'm glad things are going well for you - that you are maintaining contacts with old friends - that you have a good relationship with your boys and their wives.

That's the good stuff. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

-AD

Hi AD -

I hope things go well for you in your move. I know you'll find this more peaceful than you had expected.

#1S just called and we talked a long time. Seems WW called him the day before DIL's graduation and asked why she wasn't invited. He asked her if she would want to come when she had been so rude to DIL.

He said that instead of apologizing, she started criticizing DIL and talking bad about her. He said he listened for a little bit and then hung up on her. He said everytime he talks to her he is depressed for about a week. His words: "I think she's crazy".

He also said he struggles with how to respect his Mom when she talks about his W this way. I think that is very understandable. I KNOW that both S's will stand by their W's and not put up with this kinda stuff.

Seems as though WW is just digging her hole deeper and deeper.....

Georgia

And....for you history buffs....

I've done some preliminary homework on my soon-to-be home.

Seems the current owners bought it in 1990 from the daugher of the owner who died in 1972. I've not gotten back further than 1972 as I ran out of time at the courthouse Friday.

But...the guy who owned it up until his death in 1972 was a writer. One of his books is in our local library and they are holding a copy for me to pick up this afternoon.

Also...the land was originally surveyed in 1930 for a guy who has the same last name as the owner who died in 1972. Could be the house was in the same family until 1990.

Georgia

Thanks, Georgia.

The downside is that I'm pretty sure I won't get any overnights with DD4 until we file. W has said that she would never agree to any overnights except that it is inescapable. As soon as we file, I have to start paying CS and (possibly) temporary alimony (not too sure about the temp alimony) - and I have to keep paying the bills. But, as soon as we file, we come under temporary custody/visitation orders where I'll get the same visitation that we will have in the long run. Since we are running paycheck to paycheck right now, the time between filing and getting "our" house sold is going to be tough. (I've already whined enough about my financial fears, so I'll stop now.)

#1 concern - my relationship with DD. I've been distancing myself from her (unintentionally) over the last couple of months. Since she and W are always pretty much together, staying away from W has the undesired effect of me staying away from DD. Also, I think there has been some kind of subcouncious self-defence distancing going on within me - where I'm afraid to be hurt by losing DD - so I'm backing off now. Sad. Sorry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I have some leverage. If I file solo, I will get the June 15 to July 15 summer visitation under the temporary visitation orders. W is very afraid of that. It is my negotiating chip.

Enought TJing. Back to FGG's life.

-AD

AD - I know that having kids at home add a whole new dimension that I've not had to deal with. If there is a silver lining to my story at all, it is that my boys are grown and married.

The financial stuff is real and tough. I, too, am paying lots of bills and pretty much living paycheck to paycheck right now. I am having to be really careful and not spend foolishly.

I hope all goes well for you.

Georgia

I am the only one who has trouble concentrating when they are excited about buying a new (or very old) house?

Well....I have now discovered that the former resident (sometime between 1938 and 1972) was a published Sci-Fi writer. Some creepy sounding stories that he wrote, makes me wonder if the house might be HAUNTED!!!

Georgia