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To those who are divorcing or have divorced, how do you want to part?
My FWH and I have been LBing non-stop since Christmas 04 and I've called it quits. Our divorce petition is ready and we have made an appointment to be at the lawyer's office for signing next week. I asked for a divorce two weeks ago and he has agreed. Although we have been separated for two years, it is still very painful.
HOWEVER... I do not want him to remember me as someone who is constantly fighting with him. Since I have no expectations of him to participate in rebuilding this marriage now, our meetings have been most peaceful. I guess that is how I want him to remember me... not a horrible witch, needy, constantly crying, controllling and always having the last word.
I am just going to try my best to part peacefully though I still go through hellish days thinking he no longer loves me. But most of all, I want to find peace within myself again. I need to know that I can be comfortable being alone again.
I do not blame the xwh for his affairs and abandoning our marriage. He fulfills 90% of the Cleckley Criteria
I forgive him for his insanity and I forgive myself for being gullible to his charms.
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one month from finalization... i am parting with my dignity and pride in tact... have not had any conflict w/STBXW in over a year... she has told me that she has much respect for me and admires my strength (lmao!!)... how i will choose to remember her is another story all together...
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running as fast as i can in the other direction.....lmao
what we do in life......echoes in eternity!
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Nikko-- <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Ya put a smile on my face today, dearie! I have to admit, I want to be the darn best woman he ever had.
I do not blame the xwh for his affairs and abandoning our marriage. He fulfills 90% of the Cleckley Criteria
I forgive him for his insanity and I forgive myself for being gullible to his charms.
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