I am sick to death of this man's selfish, arrogant attitude, and I told him so!<BR>I called him to tell him that I needed more money. He said, why, that mortgage getting to you? That is why you need to sell the house and give me my equity! I told him that the insurance was due on the cars and the I have dr bills and a huge phone bill. He said that he didn't see why he had to pay for the phone bill or the insurance because I have both cars and he wasn't home to incur the phone expenses.<BR>He kept telling me that he has moved on and that he IS NOT coming home and I need to get that through my head. I asked him how you can move on without fixing the things you are moving on from. He told me that I need couseling and that even tho I am beautiful (and wont have any trouble finding another man) he doesnt' love me. He doesn't know why he doesn't but that isn't important. He said I need to move on and forget about him. <BR>I asked him about OW and he said, yes, I still talk to her, SHE IS MY FRIEND! WHATEVER!<BR>Then he said he would never go to my parents again (he had to pick d up there last week) because my mom was a wicked witch to him. He said that she treated him like a piece of sh**. She, on the other hand, has a different view. I told him what she said and he called my mom a LIAR! Ok, my mother is not a LIAR.<BR>He said that our relationship was doomed from the start and that we alway fought because I knew he didn't love me. <BR>He pisses me off. I don't care anymore. I told him that he was the most arragont, selfish person I had ever met. That he didn't care about our daughter stabiliy and the only thing important to him is his own needs. <BR>I don't want this man back. He is a jerk (he is worse than that). I know that I need to be the bigger person here, but he makes is to damn hard.<BR>I'm documenting all of this for my attorney and let her deal with him.<P>

Hey CeeCee, how do you feel? I am proud of you for standing up for yourself. I know that it was hard. But girl, you stood on your own two feet and said your piece. You should be proud of yourself, I sure am.<P>------------------<BR>To Thine Own Self Be True<BR>A.K.A.<BR>PondVJ<BR>

Hey Cheryl,<BR> I'm glad that you arn't taking his crap anymore. I know that you are love busting but hey how much can one person take. Keep documenting everything. Can you sell one of the cars? Didn't he take a car when he left?<BR>Is his name on the loans and the insurance? If it is he is responsible for half of it.<BR> Just a question but how old is he? He sounds so immature and unresponsible. I'm glad that you are fighting back and don't feel so sad anymore. <BR> Talk to ya later!

I wouldn't even call him anymore for money. I would call the attorney, and see if she can't get an exparte hearing for temporary support orders. <P>And I would also at that time get a vistation order that is something Emma can count on. If he can't make the specified times, then he loses, and unfortunately, Emma will too. But when he learns to play by the rules, he will not miss an opportunity to see Emma, and also - every time he decides he wants to see Emma or talk to you, it will be just too bad, because he can only do that on specified days.<P>Sure, you shouldn't be giving him any crap, but he shouldn't be giving you crap either. I would get the order A.S.A.P.<P>Good luck, Ceecee

ceecee - Don't feel bad about LB'ing. My experience has been that it's almost impossible not to do that once in a while. You have to take care of yourself first, after all you are worth it in spades!!!!<P>You can only put up with so much. It is really exhausting to be the only one who wants to save a marriage and some of us have much less patience than others. This is not a failing on our part, but just one of the characteristics that makes us all unique. AND you are a unique and special person, so don't let H or anyone else take that away from you.<P>I am also proud of you and you are showing a growing strength. Hold your head up, you did the right thing. Keep it up.....

Thanks you guys. I am beside myself. I dont know how in the hell we got to where we are. He knows how to push my buttons and I dont know how to not let him. He is a complete a$$.<BR>He told me that he knows I will find another man because I cant make in without one. EXCUSE ME, but I was single for many years before I met him, had my own house, paid my own bills. I know how to take care of me. He on the other hand has NEVER been without a women. He married his 1st wife at 19, left her for 2nd and met me 6wks after 2nd one left. Now he has his OW, so, who cant be alone?<BR>Viki- Thank you. I hate it when I get like this, but it is too much. I often wonder what I ever saw in him. How are you doing?<P><BR>Jill - he is 46. He hasnt learned a dang thing in all his years. I fell more sorry for him than anything else. I dont feel any love for him at all (at least right now).<BR>Is Jeff home yet? Hows it going?<P>TNT- My attorney is backed up. I cant even get in to see her until the middle of Oct. I still have my 1st attorney, but I hate to use him, since I am changing. I would rather have her do the leg work. I told him I didnt want his money or his pity.<P>HA- I dont feel strong when I let him have it, but I dont know what else to do. He tells me that he cant stand it when I am mean, it makes him know that he is doing the right thing, but he also doesn't like it when Im nice, makes hime think I am manipulating him to come home. Go figure.<P>Cheryl