About 3 1/2 years ago we had a fallen out. The results of this landed us in this rut like stage that we are still stuck in now when we are finally trying to do something about it. It's like we want to be together, but have no idea how to act anymore. I really don't think either of us want a divorce, but sometimes it just seems like it's the only thing we haven't tried. We've been through counsling, read books, & tried the different excersises. We don't fight about anything, agree on most things, still attracted to each other, still do nice gestures for each other. It's like we just simply how to be happy with each other. We read an article a few weeks ago about how a donkey between to equal piles of ffod can't make its up mine and will stand there and starve to death, and that is how we feel. We've actually discussed flipping a coin to decide what we should do. I think the only reason we haven't done that is becuase were afraid it will say we're supposed to make it work and we can't figure out how. We've decided that for this month we are going to not discuss the problems simply act as if we are happy and see if we can get something out of that, and the only reason we are doing this is becuase we are both so mentally drained from trying and discussing. So I guess my question is how did you decide it was time to get a divorce? Now if requested I will go into detail of our fallen out, but I'm not sure if it will help becuase it doesn't seem to be what is holding us back.
