<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> If she does can i come watch <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Happy B-Day, Pebs!

Your birthday plans made me smile. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Need another weenie dog? I half-heartedly tried to get Ethan (aka furnitureman) to adopt mine - I inherited sole custody of her via the divorce:

Me: So when you leave, you're also going to share the dog responsibilities, right? After all, the dog was your idea to begin with.

Her: NO! You made the decision NOT to leave the house so you have to keep the dog since the dog lives in the house.

Me: Oh. OK. Using that logic I also have to keep all the furniture and other belongings and I get full custody of {son} since he lives in the house, too, right?

Her : NO!!!! That's DIFFERENT!!!

WAT

Pebbles, I like your style! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Happiest of bdays my dear <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Happy Birthday, Pebbles!

Happy happy Birthday Pebbles! Every girl should wear a tiara on her birthday! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Just a quick note, my husband said he wanted a divorce. His OW even dragged him to an attorney. But filing for divorce is hard work and involves lots of conflict =)

I filed for divorce at Steve Harley's suggestion. Steve also told me to do Plan B (which in hind sight I should have but I didnt). I didn't do Plan B, so my husband continued to visit the kids, and do family things and I stayed in sort of a Plan A (it was more Plan Me, trying to transition into a new life).

Not a word did he mention about the divorce. When he was served, he was served by a sheriff at work.

If we talked about the divorce, it was if I brought it up. And when we talked about it, it was about my future plans post-divorce.

He was given 30 days to respond to the papers I had served. He ignored it. A notice came to both of us that I was getting a default divorce unless he appeared in court.

Our court date approached, and the night before, he showed up on my door step promising to do everything Steve Harley had told him to do if I would postpone the divorce for 30 days.

I did that, and he came through on his word.

The cynical part of me thinks that in the end, he decided that recovering with me was the path of least resistance. Which is probably true. Regardless, it was what was best for my family at the time.

I would be willing to bet that your papers made the divorce incredibly real.

Fantasy isnt so fun when reality sticks its head in =)

You are doing great, Pebbles, hang in there!

I'm posting here because I'm hiding from my wife <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I think your life has been happy because you don't dwell on the bad things and look for the good in everything and everyone.



I feel like that quite a bit. Her comments that we HAVE to get a divorce so we can try to have a better relationship afterward. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I wonder if they feel so guilty that they can't bear to acknowledge what they did. If we think about an addict, I can see where they want to hide from their family because they're so ashamed. WW asked my SIL (her sister) why I'm doing what I'm doing if I loved her. I hope one day she'll come to her senses to figure it out... but she's got some growing to do. I think we need to continue to be the lighthouse. You obviously are.


'craniorectosis' Head up butt disease.

Let's contact Webster's!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Love it. Are you an English teacher??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />



AMEN Sister!!

Happy 40th!! You caught me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> How was the crab?

Happy Birthday Pebbles!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Oh Lordy,Pebbles is forty!

Happy Birthday Pebs. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Happy Birthday Pebbles!!!! Enjoy your day it is all about YOU!!! Pamper, primp, take a nap whatever you please. There is a brighter happier life ahead. When you're forty you don't need to take [email]cr@p[/email] from anyone!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

WH is about to miss out on one of the best years of your life!

Thank you, SIHW, Dealan-de, Gimble, WAT, faithful follower, MelodyLane, BrambleRose, Sleepless, Loving Boundaries, Trix, and confused42, for the birthday wishes! I enjoyed reading them.

So far, the 11th anniversary of my 29th birthday has been great! The whole school sang "Happy Birthday" to me at our Wednesday assembly. I got to be the speaker's helper (oooh, an honor) and I got to kiss a ventroquist's dummy while reading the story of the prodigal son. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> My students pushed me back to our classroom in a wheelchair with black balloons tied to it. They steered me into the water fountain, and almost into the boys' bathroom (accidentally, I'm sure <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ). I wore the tiara all day. My birthday buddy put together a little 'over the hill' party during recess. I gave my students extra recess time. Some of them drew me pictures in their free time.

You know, I really do have a good life. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

As an added birthday gift to me, I think WH got a good dose of reality tonight. When he came over, neither child was ready to go with him. They both wanted to stay here. I was in a hurry to leave, of course, so I couldn't help him with the kids. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> He did tell me "happy birthday" when he first came in (what, no flowers? LOL). I saw WH looking around at my birthday cards and a gift bag and flowers I had on the table. I dressed for a special evening, in something more revealing than I normally wear.

I didn't tell the kids who I would be with or where I would be, just that I was going out with a friend, so they didn't have info for WH, if he asked. WH and I agreed that if he took the kids out, we'd meet at the house at their bedtime. I reminded our son, in front of WH, to take a house key with him if they went out (since WH doesn't have one, hee, hee).

WH ended up taking the kids to his apartment. When we all got home, WH told me, "They didn't want to do anything, so we just watched videos the whole time." From the way the kids were acting when I first left, I'm thinking there wasn't much conversation. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

WH leaned against the kitchen counter while the kids got ready for bed, looking uncomfortable. I asked him if he was ready to leave or if he wanted to sit down. I was surprised when he chose the chair closest to me to sit in (there were places to sit farther away). He asked me if I had a good time. All I said was, "Yes. It was fun."

We discussed the time of our daughter's school function tomorrow evening. He said, "I'll sit way in the back so you won't be uncomfortable." I replied, pleasant but confused, "Hmmm, I won't be uncomfortable." I mean, it is my school, where many of my strongest supporters are. I wouldn't want to be alone in a room with any of them, if I were him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Besides, I'll be working during the school function and won't have time to worry about where he is.

Immediately after he said good-night to the kids, I said, "I'll walk you to the door. You're picking up the kids on Friday for the weekend, right? Okay, bye." I locked the door behind him.

Happy birthday, Pebbles! I wish you all the best in this next year, and I'm so glad it's a little over 7 years till I have to find out what it's like. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> H's B-day is tomorrow. Glad you had fun on your Mystery Night Out!

Hi, Pebbles.

You really did well tonight.

I especially like this:
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He asked me if I had a good time. All I said was, "Yes. It was fun."
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Well, at the expense of being crude, if he had not been wearing a belt, he would be in emergency hernia surgery from busting his gut trying to hold back all the questions that he really wanted to ask.

That question was so loaded that a single drop could have half the the local pub patrons drunk.

Good answer. The possibility of you having a life without him is not something that he is prepared to face. B time approaches quickly now.

God bless,
Gimble

Thanks, 'neak! Don't worry, 40 is no big deal. I don't feel any older than I did yesterday. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thanks, Gimble.

It did seem like he was waiting for me to elaborate. He is used to me talking a lot (surprising, I know <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />), so I'm sure he was expecting me to tell him all about my evening without being prompted.

I'll have time to finish hand-writing my Plan B letter this weekend since the kids will be with WH. My first weekend without the kids. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Would it be good timing to mail the letter this Saturday or early next week?

Even though I am technically still in Plan A during the school function tomorrow night, I'll probably be too busy to interact with WH much. I'll be helping run things, so I won't have the awkwardness of whether to sit with him or not. It will be interesting to see how WH is treated by my coworker friends. He might feel very alone.

Yeah. 40's no big deal. Of course my son sat on my shoulders last Saturday and noted I was getting a lot more grey hairs up there. "Those are from mommy" I said good heartedly. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Good luck with Plan B Pebbles. WW started it for me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Pebbles.

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If you were waffling all over the place about what you are doing, then I am sure that I would have a strong opinion, since I seem to have no shortage there :-)

As is, I think that you need to depend on your own sense of your situation. I think that you have a good handle on it. Don't wait too long, but don't waste a lot of time second guessing yourself either.

My suggestion is that you tell us when you do it.

Folks will be here to support you for the duration. I will be one of them.

God bless,
Gimble

Good job Pebs and I agree with Gimble.

You're a master at this, it's becoming clear. You decide when to pull the trigger and just do it. It is impossible for any of us to know better.

WAT

Gimble and WAT, coming from two people I have come to respect a great deal, your confidence in me means a lot. I think I'll be going to Plan B by the end of this weekend. I'll have time to write out my Plan B letter, then I'll give it to him when he returns the children Sunday evening. I wanted to mail it to him, but I'm not exactly sure where he is getting his mail delivered now. He had a P.O. Box, but he may have changed it, and I don't think he has mail delivered to his apartment. I don't want to take the chance that my Plan B letter doesn't make it to its destination.

I am open to suggestions of other ways to deliver my PLB, if anyone has some ideas.

I think after the events of the last two days and after his first weekend with the children, Sunday evening may be just the right time to begin Plan B.

Hi, Pebbles.

As long as you can handle it emotionally, hand delivered is the way to go.

If you can, a gentle kiss on the cheek, and a sincere "I Love You" as you hand him the letter would go far. Then turn and walk away.

The Sunday evening delivery sounds good, what a nice way for him to start the new week.

You are shining like a freshly polished jewel, Pebbles. It is impossible for him not to notice.

God bless,
Gimble