FANTASTIC!

Almost makes me look forward to going to court. It's just a riot, no?

Well done for not laughing at the unfortunate WH.

Well done, indeed!

Get some sleep - a little later. Now, have a party! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

One more thing.

The lawyer gave me a ride back to her office in her car (my mom had dropped me off earlier). It felt so good walking out of the courtroom with her, right in front of WH and his brother. I sweetly said goodbye to them, with a smile. The brother said goodbye. WH nodded, but did not speak.

On the ride back, my lawyer told me that so far, legally, everything has come out very much in my favor. She said in most cases the abandoned wife does not do nearly as well with custody/visitation and financial support. I thanked her for that. She replied, "You can thank me, and your WH's ignorance." We'll see what he decides to do about the division of property and debts.

Hi, Pebbles.

Well now, that little bubble of entitlement your hubby took to court with him is now somewhere in the ionosphere.

No lawyer and a non-legal advisor. It just doesn't get much better than that.

I bet the judge could tell some whoppers about similar activities from wayward spouses.

Tonight, he and John's wife will talk about the court case and how unfair it was and how he has been wronged. She will try to console him with words. That will fail. She may try other methods, but they will fail also.

She won't like him being a black hole. She will wonder just how long he is going to be like this, he has already gone on unhappy for so long now. Her resentments are building, their drift apart started months ago. She is glad that she hasn't divorced John.

I will be surprised if he doesn't beg off on the kids overnight visit tonight.

You did good, Pebbles.

God bless,
Gimble

Thanks, Alph!

It would have been more funny if it wasn't happening to me, LOL. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I just kept thinking, "This cannot be my life!"

It took a great deal of self-control.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> You know it's funny if the lawyer has trouble hiding her giggles.

Just think, WH will be here to pick up the kids for their overnight in less than four hours. I'll bet he's in a great mood. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Oh, indeed. I'm sure they'll have a wonderful time together. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> I wonder what condition he'll return them to you in this time. Naked? Wearing saucepans? Entirely the wrong children? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Even though you shouldn't be seen, you can still glow serenely in his general direction when he gets there, secure in the knowledge that you WHIPPED HIS A$$!

Alph.

Hi, Gimble.

I hope so!!! He sure seems set on wanting a divorce.

I have to say, it will take me a while to get rid of the mental picture of WH as a broken, ragged old man, lashing out with childish logic and misguided fury.

Hmmm, I wonder. Or, he may not want to give me the satisfaction of knowing he was upset by the day's events. I'll let you know. The kids will probably mention to him that I am taking a trip out of town this weekend. I'll be out having fun while he is taking care of the kids and wallowing in his anger and self-pity (hee, hee).

Thank you, Sleepless. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Although, WH may not agree with you on the 'me not being evil' part. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

You're funny, Alph. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So, you think he might be a little distracted? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I'll have to go thank the salesgirl who showed me my goin' to court dress. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Of course, God and the lawyer helped a great deal, too.

They are going to garnish his wages .... it does not get better than that ...

GREAT JOB !

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Pep

Thinking about WH and the children, WH has to be a little worried about what I might be telling them about what is going on. I think maybe he trusts me to keep the legal mess away from them.

I wonder what he thinks about where I told the kids I was going today. They might mention to WH tonight that I got dressed up and spent most of the day at an 'appointment.' I doubt he will say anything about court. He has not said anything to them about legal matters so far.

My son did overhear something Monday. The lawyer's office usually calls on my cell phone. This time they called on the home phone (cell was turned off). I yelled, "I'll get it!" My son picked up at the same time. Before he hung up, I am fairly sure he overhead the legal assistant say the word 'court,' maybe some more. I asked him, but he said he didn't hear anything. I reminded him that there is some adults-only business going on right now that it is best that he does not hear. He nodded wisely. He knows.

Thanks, Pep. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I thought that was a rather nice touch. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Just think of all the trouble I am saving him. He won't have to remember to write me a check and mail it to me. He'll save on stamps and envelopes!

You know he'll appreciate it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

I bet he's not feeling on top of the world right now ....

I bet home with his beautiful wife Peb and his own children .... and UNgarnished wages is looking like an oasis about now.

I really do feel sorry for dumbbells who get caught in this trap of thinking they can "move on" to the next partner and all will be "just fine once it works out" .. .... such stupidity is jaw-dropping at times.

But feeling sorry for his [censored] doesn't change the fact .... eventually the bill comes due.

Pep

Hi, Pebbles.

I am assuming that your absence from the forum tonight is because you are taking a well deserved snooze, or because hubby is begging you to let him come home.

Either one would be okay <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

God bless,
Gimble

Alph:Just trying to be helpful. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Pep:I think what he is mostly feeling is victimized <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> ...and poor. From what it sounded like in court, I think he'll probably try to file a motion to divide assets and debts as soon as possible. Maybe the brother who offered to help me out financially (WH's court buddy) will help WH pay for a lawyer now, or maybe he'll give WH more wonderful legal advice. I hope MOW likes helping WH out with his child support payments.

It turned out to be a good thing, I think, that WH's brother was there today. Not only did he get to see that I am not broken down and haggard, like WH, but he got to see WH's behavior. I was calm, polite, and serene. WH was desperate, almost rude, and whiny. The brother also got to hear some of WH's lies exposed. Whether any of this will register in the brother's mind, I don't know. WH probably gave him the impression that I have become a vindictive witch. If it does register in the brother's mind, his wife is the family gossip. Hmmm...

It would be more cost effective, anyway. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I know he was thinking he'd end up with extra cash to play with once he was away from the kids and me.

He did end up being polite to me near the end of the court session, after pointedly ignoring me and speaking disrespectfully about me at first. Maybe the politeness was just for show? The judge asked if WH had provided health insurance for the kids. He said he had. The judge asked me if WH had given me proof. I said I believed WH, but I had not been given insurance cards or proof. WH reached across my lawyer to hand me the cards. I said, "Thank you, WH." He seemed surprised. There were a few times when he told the truth about something and I backed him up, when I could have lied and gotten away with it. Maybe some of that sunk in?

The phrase 'you play, you pay' comes to mind. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Gimble.

I sat down on my bed for a minute to pat the dog and ended up falling asleep for four hours. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Nope. I don't think he is very fond of me at the moment...but probably no less fond than before.

He did show up to pick up the kids. He was a little late and not in his work clothes. Maybe he was off sulking somewhere after court. His brother had to drive three hours to be in court with him today. They may have been discussing how vile I am and what to do to me next. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Pebbles.

I do think it is interesting that he did not choose to spend the evening consoling with John's wife, and chose to be with his children instead.

Court was a huge event for him as well as you. In his case, even bigger because his bubble was burst. Him not spending the evening with John's wife has my curiosity up. It could be something simple like she needed to actually do something responsible like be at home with her child.

I suspect that the gap with your hubby and John's wife is wider than I initially suspected :-)

Does he have a private cell phone (affair phone), and how is he with text messages on a cell phone? I hate trying to text message on a cell phone.

He is a stubborn man. That was in full evidence in court today. I still think he is going to want to 'discuss things' with you pretty soon.

It's all just tea leaves anyway, nothing to think too hard about <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

God bless,
Gimble

Hi Pebbles,

I'm so proud of you! You did great today <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Have fun this weekend!

Cat

Hey Pebbles,
you did well...
admire your chic,
poetic style.

Sounds like BamBam
got a wham wham.
ain't no fun
in la-la-land!

Great job, Pebbles!