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Sleepless, yikes! That's a whole lot of money. WSs are expensive and high maintenance, yes? My life is quite the suckfest at the moment, too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I just had to borrow more money from my parents to have some work done on my aging, antique minivan. At least we are not aliens! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> The AD is making you sleepy? Is that a sexual side affect? Sigh, how would I know? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
Married 16 years
D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
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Maybe hubby's brother should have handled it, after all, someone needs to represent your hubby, even if he isn't a lawyer. I hear that judges really like that Funny, Gimble. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> But...Bam-Bam's brother has experience, LOL! He has been divorced, you know, and he married his affair partner, so he is an expert. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
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D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
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Sounds to me like exposure had some effect! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> BrambleRose, it is almost worth paying the $45 to me to know that the exposure had an effect. WH must have been really ticked to drum up the courage to call my lawyer. He seems to be afraid of her, LOL.
Me 40, STBXWH 43
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Ashley, I know what you mean. It's not fair that the abandoned spouse has to pay for the WSs decision to leave. I'll say it again: Stupid, stupid aliens! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
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Orchid, you are so funny! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> BS: That's what your lawyer is for, stupid. Unless you want me to call your lawyer and give her my side. WS: No you can't. He's right, I can't call his lawyer. He doesn't have one (not yet anyway). He has been relying on his divorced, affair-partner-marrying brother for legal advice. It has worked out great for him so far, LOL. The judge was impressed (insert much sarcasm and eye rolling). Oh well, at least he is respecting my Plan B letter by calling my lawyer instead of calling me. Maybe? Or maybe it is his sense of entitlement guiding him again. He probably thinks I have no right to 'ruin his life' or involve MOW and her parents in this. Like he told me so long ago, "She has nothing to do with this!" Riiiiight. WS: I have to go, my pants are vibrating. That's what happens when you've got aliens in your pants. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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My life is quite the suckfest at the moment, too. I just had to borrow more money from my parents to have some work done on my aging, antique minivan. At least we are not aliens! OOOhhh that does suck!! I just got my truck back going again two weeks ago. I'm not sure if it's easier to deal with an alien or a possessed minivan. Hey! The lawyer and counselor paid off. Tune in for All of My Aliens at Sleeplesses Post. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Me 41
WS 39
DS 19, DS 9
DDay 2/25/05
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I wouldn't worry about what he said, if he had a credible threat lawyer would have told you. Confused, that's what I am thinking, too. My lawyer has had plenty of time since WH called her to call me or send me a letter, if she felt I had done something wrong. "Hi, Ms. Pebbles Lawyer this is Bam Bam, my W told MOW's parents on me.... Funny! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Ms. Pebble's lawyer didn't respond to him because she/he was laughing to hard. Probably. One time she called him when I was there in her office. She put him on the speaker phone. She rolled her eyes at me and made faces several times during his babble. It took tremendous self-control for me not to laugh and pretend I wasn't there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Really, the lawyer would have contacted me by now if I was in trouble, don't you think? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> At least I hope so.
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D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
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Hey! The lawyer and counselor paid off. Tune in for All of My Aliens at Sleeplesses Post. Sounds interesting! Not that there was any doubt things would go your way, with your WW suffering from craniorectosis and hiring the dog-dress-up lawyer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Me 40, STBXWH 43
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D-day 01/25/05
Son 14, Daughter 10
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Hi, Pebbles.
What your hubby did was to give your lawyer even more leverage should your situation not get resolved.
Your hubby has done two things consistently. He has been stubborn, and he has been just a wee bit less than tactically brilliant. This episode was likely no different.
God bless!
Gimble
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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One time she called him when I was there in her office. She put him on the speaker phone. She rolled her eyes at me and made faces several times during his babble. It took tremendous self-control for me not to laugh and pretend I wasn't there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> hahaha that's quite funny. Your WH is quite the classic one. LOL I am mad mad mad <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> with my WH for causing all these money issues, and still not facing up to responsibility. He is really leaving me in quite a crunch here. ~A
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I agree, the lawyer would have called you if there was a problem. You bought yourself $45 worth of peace...no more thoughts about it...enjoy it like a good massage. Heck, the lawyer probably knocked a bit of time off it because she enjoyed hearing the babble. You can ask about it in your next conversation with her.
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
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WH called ~your attorney~ to complain about unwelcome calls YOU made .... to someone else !
heeheehee
Was he always this dumb?
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He has been stubborn, and he has been just a wee bit less than tactically brilliant. This episode was likely no different. Gimble, a 'wee bit less than tactically brilliant,' LOL. He must have been extremely angry, though, to have developed the, um, 'genital fortitude' to call my lawyer. Do you think it's part of his conflict-avoider personality that he has not confronted me in any way about this? The day after he called my lawyer, his mom called me and yelled at me for calling MOW's parents, insisting that WH did not ask her to call me. A coincidence?
Me 40, STBXWH 43
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D-day 01/25/05
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Ashley, yep, he never ceases to amaze me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> You bought yourself $45 worth of peace.. I think you're right, SHMI, WH has not bothered me since he called my lawyer. The only attempted contact was when he rang the doorbell then left the support check stuck in the door. Of course, I don't know what would have happened had I answered the door. Now, silence again. I have to pick up the kids Sunday evening from his lair. I told my son I would call on his cell when I got there and the kids could meet me at the curb. We'll see what happens.
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He has been stubborn, and he has been just a wee bit less than tactically brilliant. This episode was likely no different. Gimble, a 'wee bit less than tactically brilliant,' LOL. He must have been extremely angry, though, to have developed the, um, 'genital fortitude' to call my lawyer. Do you think it's part of his conflict-avoider personality that he has not confronted me in any way about this? The day after he called my lawyer, his mom called me and yelled at me for calling MOW's parents, insisting that WH did not ask her to call me. A coincidence? Next convo w/MIL: MIL: Stop harrassing OW and my son. Pebbles: Harrassing them? Oh I thought he said you were harrassing them. Can you explain how a person can harrass someone by NOT calling or talking to them? You can do it with ESP or something? Please tell me how you do it, MIL? Yep, you need to reverse babble your MIL. She got caught in the fog and can't find her way out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> L.
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Pep, no, he wasn't always this dumb. In fact, I always respected his intelligence and common sense. He has a slight tinge of techno geek to him that I've always found attractive. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Alien mind rot has not been good to him. Maybe it's something the skankylosaur has been feeding him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
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Yep, you need to reverse babble your MIL. She got caught in the fog and can't find her way out. She's fogged for sure, Orchid. I think she has written me off, though. I haven't heard from her since. Maybe she's making cookies for MOW. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Edited to add: If I ever get a chance to use that reverse babble, I will. That's funny!
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Wow! I just realized that my saga has reached 100 pages in length. Quite a dubious milestone.
I just remembered that the divorce paperwork was filed May 11. It takes six months in California for a divorce to become final. If I don't pay extra money to file continuances to slow things down, the divorce could be final in November. I haven't spoken to my lawyer since we went to court June 29 - can a divorce become final without the final division of assets and debts taking place? I don't want to end up divorced without meaning to.
I have not heard anything about WH filing to divide our assets and debts, but I keep expecting to hear about it any day, especially as angry at me as he must be now. I know that I will not lift a finger to move the divorce along any more.
Sigh, I wonder what will happen next?
Me 40, STBXWH 43
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U have to look after your financial end w/o help from the WS. Expect him to try to take you to the cleaners. U should beat him to that point.
Tell your lawyer what you expect and that you don't want to go to D without proper division of the assets.
RH knows the D course better. Maybe he can help.
JMHO,
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Hi, Pebbles.
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The day after he called my lawyer, his mom called me and yelled at me for calling MOW's parents, insisting that WH did not ask her to call me. A coincidence?
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It sounds to me like John's wife's parents have some character and honor. I think that is a good thing. I think it is a good thing that every one got stirred up because you exposed the affair to some bright sunshine.
I don't believe in coincidences. I do believe in liars.
God bless,
Gimble
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
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