From some new information I received, I found out the P.O. Box WH has been using since he left, and where he had mail diverted for a while before he left, actually belongs to MOW!

MOW is also the person WH's cell phone is registered to. He has had the phone since at least October of 2004. She has also paid his rent at least once, according to WH. I also found out WH's internet is paid for by MOW. Their shared email address is registered under her name. Maybe he really does want a mommy?

She may have had a lot to do with helping him plan his leaving, even more so that I thought. They seem to be deeply entrenched (not really a surprise, I guess).

Do a background search and see if you can come up with a driver's or auto license#. SS# w/b good to but it could make you look a bit over anxious. SS# would really help their HR dept id the OW. If she is saying she works for that company and is using an alias either way, that w/b bad for her.

L.

Hi, Pebbles.

Either the HR department is just missing the obvious, or the illicit pair are lying, she is using another name or she is an 'independent contractor' for the company.

Ask the HR people if they use independent contractors for any kind of vendor/buyer/representative relationships.

If she is an independent, she will get 'fired' even faster.

What about hubby's company? How is that coming?

God bless,
Gimble

Hi Pebbles, you've got mail.

How are you doing? Hopefully you're really busy getting massages and pedicures to get back in shape before school. Just checking in to say hi......

Hi, Pebbles.

Hope things are OK with you today. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Alph.

I wonder if he will feel like a 'kept man' at some point. Or if she is orchestrating lots of this, might he feel somewhat 'controlled' at some point?

This A could still run it's course and your H could wake up one day and wonder WTF he is doing with OW...and not his family.

Hey Pebbles. Mind if I send you an E-Mail directly?

Sleepless.

Hi Pebbles, I hope all is well. Ready for school?

I understand where you are right now Pebbles, so just know we all understand why you haven't been posting. We all worry about you, but I teach too and it's tough trying to get it all ready to go at work and then "face the music" or "lack of music" at home. It's all-consuming, I know. (And I don't have little ones at home, too.) You are being prayed for and you're in our thoughts. Hang in there....
SAR2

Pebbles,

Not like you to go sooo dark on us. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Hope u r ok. Please let us know.

Hugz,
L.

Hi, Gimble, 'Neak, Alph, Sleepless, Trix, confused, SAR2, and Orchid. It made me feel good to see you thought of me when I wasn't around. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Thanks.

Getting ready for school this year has been especially hard work. We have the plumbing problem making half the school off limits, and the custodians have not been available to help us move and adjust tables, etc. I have been moving large tables from room to room, climbing stacks of chairs to hang things on walls and get rid of spider webs (don't tell OSHA <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />), laminating bunches of folders and nametags, and I think I've written every student's name in my class about a bizillion times.

Thankfully, I now have everything ready for Monday. I have come home exhausted. I feed the kids, do laundry and housework, etc. If I get to sit down for a second, I fall asleep. I'm the life of the party right now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I took the kids to a group counseling program Thursday evening. It is run through a hospital nearby. The kids are put in groups of their own age and do drawing therapy and other activities while the adults meet with a facilitator to discuss how to help the kids. My kids were maaaad at me for making them go. It was the first time my son has told me he hated me since he was about two years old. The reaction of the kids makes me think the counseling is just what they need. They really haven't expressed many of their feelings about their dad leaving. I hope being in groups with kids their own age in similar situations, guided by a counselor, will help them. Although, I may have to use duct tape and tranquilizer darts to get them to go next week. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

I checked the caller ID when I got home from school yesterday. It said my MIL tried to call again. She didn't leave a message. Sorry I missed her call (insert sarcasm). All I need right now is for her to nag me about my 'lack of character' and being mean to her son.

The kids are busy playing together right now, without even arguing! I'll use this probably brief interlude to catch up on everyone's threads. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Sleepless, check my bio. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Good to hear from u! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Glad u r safe and sane. Hard work is good for the soul. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

take care,
L.

Glad you are ok, Peb - though tired!

Good news about the counceling, too.


May I suggest bribery? Works for mine, but they are particularly mercenary children, bless 'em. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

You are exhausted. Go to bed early tonight, do you hear?

Alph.

(((((Pebs))))))))
Glad you are keeping busy. What a summer! You survived it! You are doing well, with school starting back up make sure you continue to take care of yourself.

Peb,
The first day of school was not good for me at all due to the usual first day stress and sheer physical exhaustion....we started back last week. I was amazed at how physically weak I had become due to this personal life "mess." I came home and collapsed, but it almost helped knowing I HAD to regroup for the next day. I have been living for this weekend when I could just curl up and be alone with my thoughts....pretty depressing, but that's where I am so I'm just going with it.
Hang in there! I'm so proud of you for getting those kids and yourself into the group counseling....you deserve a medal!
SAR2

Hey Pebbles! Good to hear from you and that you are doing well. I do peek in your thread often.. tho' lately I've been battling my own inner demons so I've been a little subdued. I'm trying to claw myself out.. besides I've to get focussed for my test tomorrow! I want to pass it at first go!

I'll be signing my sep deed on Tues eve <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Did your kids tell you how the counselling session went?


~A

I wondered what that stuff was for! DUH! (That was for me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />)

You know, my doctor friends say that 600 Mg of Ibuprofen is an acceptable therapeutic dose. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thought maybe the AD's had you in a funk in front of the TV. Wow was I wrong.

Character: What you do when no one else is watching. Is WH's current behavior what MIL taught her son? She should be embarrassed by her own parenting skills if not downright ashamed. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Hi, guys. Just checking in. Today was the first day of school. I love my class, my daughter likes her teacher, and Back-to-School Night went well. Now...I am sooooo tired. Do we really have to go to school again tomorrow? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

This weekend could be the introduction of the skankylosaur to the kids, maybe even this Wednesday. I wonder if WH even knows when the court order allows them to meet.

I sent MOW's HR director some more information. I haven't heard back. I hope they can find her.

No WH sightings since he dropped off our daughter last Thursday morning (he took son to school). He did come to the door, and put son's overnight things inside the door as I was closing it. Good thing for him he got his arm out quickly. He didn't show up at school tonight to meet our daughter's teacher. Of course, I didn't inform him tonight was BTS Night, but he knows it's always the first day of school.

My funny daughter, the teacher's child, chose a Funny Bunny t-shirt to wear for the first day of school. The saying on it was "skool makes you soooper smartt." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Edited to add: I didn't even think about it until now. Today is the 3-month anniversary of Plan B. Thursday will be the 7-month anniversary of D-day/WH leaving. That's a loooonnnng time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />