There are many kinds of valour. "Fight or flight" bravery, risking a lot on an uncertain but hoped for roll of a dice, sufering with dignity. All these are valiant, but I have come to believe in my OWN situation that plan A - deliberately doing utterly uninstinctive things when when what I really want to do is take an axe to somebody is the thing I am proudest of in my life.
If a man ( or woman!) physically defends their family against attack EVERYONE applauds, understands and is supportive.
No friends say " you must be crazy for staying in the attacked household, get out; Have you no pride, man? The family's a slut, you're best out of it; plenty more fish in the sea; what are you ,chicken? Go kill this pr1ck!"
Everybody understands that kind of bravery.
Again when a person invests everything in , say, a busines opportunity. Onlookers may not agree with such a risk but secretly they envy the bravery of the investor, and even if it isn't successful, on lookers will say "well, you have sand, friend".
Plan A however requires more long term grit than anything else. And YES lives are actually at stake. And no-one can work out what the odds of success are, yet we must adhere to plan A knowing that every single tiny violation of the tenets of it can reset the clock to close to zero sometimes.
I am a big, physically imposing man with a streetfighting youth, no fear of conflict outside my M and I have felt clumsy, ill equipped and pathetic while doing plan A.
But I stuck to it in the absence of any other proven plan.
And it worked. WONDERFULLY.
My best friend, and my lovely SIL ( Squids older sister) have both told me that they are in AWE at my efforts against what was a desperately entrenched affair. Sure, others still think I'm crazy, and have lost respect for me as they believe I have been weak, but they are wrong.
Plan A is a heroes gig. I truly believe that.
And the feeling when you have personally rescued your family and your M from the crack of doom against the best efforts of Satans most invideous demons is inexpressable.
Through this process I have become a knight not a serf. I have seen true heroes emerge from this fight through these boards.
You ladies need to realise that there is no 'near' plan A or plan B. But you are SO close its worth that final 5% investment!!!
An automobile with 3 wheels fitted is not 75% as effective as one with 4 wheels.
A plan A with a weekly LB, or a plan B with the odd email here and there are left helplessly by the side of the road like a three wheeled car.
My outlet for all my nervous energy and anguish was the gym. wise friend Gimble advised me this and of all the wonderful help he gave me this was the best.
It not only helped me deal with my anger and pain, it made me physically powerful ( and more attractive to my Squid ! !)and allowed me to sleep better. MAN I've burned up some anger on those weight machines ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
You folks are NEARLY there ! Just find your own coping mechanism and use it regularly before the tears and LB arrive.
In this way you can execute that last 5% of Plan A that will slice the heart open of your WS fog.
I am nothing special, yet I managed this.
You can do it too !
All blessings !
