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Adult children and Plan B
#1368636 05/05/05 12:23 PM
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My son is home from college for a couple of weeks before summer school starts. I have tried not involve them in this mess. WW call him last night, I had already gone to bed but I noticed the number on the caller ID this morning before I went to work. I don't question any of my children about their conversations with their mother. I feel like that is between them. I have told all my children that I don't have anything to say to her. Am I handling this correctly? I listen to my children probalby more and better than ever but I don't need or want any info on their mother. Plan B is alive and well her nearly 10 weeks with absolutely no contact.

D-Day 5-22-04 BS(me) 52 WS 49 Divorced 7-26-06 3 adult children (28, 25 &18) 5 year A
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hopefulinnc #1368637 05/05/05 12:33 PM
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So, you are dying to know, but don't know if you should ask?

Probabaly best to leave it like it is. I think you are best not knowing. I keep hoping she will get it, and am so sorry for your pain. It is especially bad to continue to wonder what will happen, and to wonder if she will EVER get it.

God be with you,

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Last edited by still seeking; 05/05/05 06:06 PM.
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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hopefulinnc #1368638 05/05/05 05:50 PM
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Yes is my response, you are handling this correctly. Your kids are old enough to deal with their Mom in whatever way they choose, and also they can accept that you need protection from what she is doing.

I am so grateful you posted this update. I think about you and wonder how you're holding up.

Go have fun. Plan a trip to hawaii or something.

Regards,

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Pepperband #1368639 05/05/05 06:15 PM
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Do they know what you are doing & why?
Don't let them simply think that you are mad at ww and don't want to talk with her.
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Chris -CA123 #1368640 05/05/05 10:45 PM
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Yeah, I agree. Since they are full adults, they should at least know what you are doing and why...
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Yeah, I agree. Since they are full adults, they should at least know what you are doing and why...
Whether they are adults or not, they should know what & why.

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