ok so things have been going REALLY REALLY well. this week since my surprise dinner and stuf on last sat. he has not stayed late all week adn even left an hour early last night. things were great then BOOM today he is a GROUCH. First this morning he was fine. then we usually talk a lot mroe on sat. but he didn tcall and i was busy cleaning so i called at like 1:30 he seemed a bit annoyend (at work probably ) and short. so we ended our call with him saying i gotta run love u bye. real lquick like he got a supervisor call or something happend. THEN i go out to eat with the girls on sat night and wanted to know if he wanted me to brin ghim something os i tried to call him. NO answer....

That usually means hes on the other line or out back having a cigg. break. so i took a shower then caleld back . he answered. i said hey where were u. (he wasmore then miserable from the moment he siad hi) he said on a sup call. i siad oh why didnt you call me when you get done. (i'm being really nice not suspuous just asking) and he says i just got off. i said ok then i get ready to say did you want me to get you something to eat. and before i can ge tthe words out he says why. i said why what. he said why should it matter if i call you as soon as i get off the phone with a customer. i know you called and i will call you back. ( that is fine but i'm leaving in a few min to go eat and needed to konw b/ 4i left) i treid to eaxplain that to him again he give s me an attitude. then he puts me on hold then he comes back i said did you want me to bring you something. he just sits there says nothing. i wait a minute i said hello he said i'm doing something. i said what (again being cheery adn nice ) and he says WORK i'm at work. i siad ok i can tell your busy call me back when its a better time. he SLAMMED the phone down.

now were getting ready to leave. he gets something every sat for whne he gets home from work. but i dpnt know if is hould get him anything . i also dont know if i'm correctly handling his grouchiness.

When he is grumpy leave him alone. When he is nasty to you, why do you take his crap and reward him ?. However you have to explain to him why you didn't bring anything home b/c he is not nice when you try to reach him. He could cook or get his own food.

Some men need to be trained <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> .

-rh-

If you got him something, IMHO, you're not handling it correctly. My DH can be a big grouch, and I was the famous enabler/pleaser.

It wasn't until I stopped giving when he was grouchy that he began to change. (I would say things like, I would have loved to do that for you, but your grouchiness drained out all that extra energy I was going to use to do it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />!!)