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My mom is wonderful - NOW!

Ever since she had her histerical-ectomy (meant to be said that way) she's changed and all in good ways. She should have done it when I was little, imo....damn doctors!


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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I sometimes find that disappointing Grandma is WAY worse to my kids than disappointing ME...kwim?

I don't know that they so much worry about "disappointing" me, but they DO worry about being crushed if they don't obey <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> For whatever reason--the weight, the timbre of the voice, the graying hair, the wrinkles, the fearsome scowls <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />--I have an intimidation factor thing going that neither of their mothers has yet managed to develop. What I always wanted to be, growing up, the terrorizer of small children. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> But, hey, it works. What can I say? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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And when I'm fun, I'm a LOT of fun! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Interesting factoid of the day..........

Plato imagined that the uterus (Greek hustera or hystera) was a separate spirit and animal part of a woman that only wanted to become pregnant. If it did not, this imaginary uterus-spirit wandered in a fit of mopish pique through the body causing trouble. When it arrived at the brain, this hystera (womb animal) went totally postal and induced feminine hysterics.

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are you still enjoying work?

No, and no, and no. But, in the immortal words of the Flard (#2 son), "If I'm so great, how come nobody will pay me to be me?" Until I find a way to be reimbursed for selfhood, I'm pretty much stuck with continuing in the one way I know how to earn money! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />


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I thought I would travel to Europe regardless of grumpy's retirement

If you're anything like me, you'd enjoy that a lot. Somewhere back in the interminable pages of the Sad Saga of OtherSusan the Stupid, I told about my solo vacation a few years back, when I traveled 10 or 11 states all by myself, visited friends, saw what I wanted when I wanted for however long I wanted. It was the most wonderful time. I can't begin to tell you. Neaksis finally had to ask me if I was ever coming home. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> You and I could travel together, and let AussieGrumpy and YankeeGrumpy grouse around together. Doesn't that sound like a plan? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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I just love throwing the Nan power around <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Darling would you do the dishes for me? yep nanna
Can you clean your room for me sweeties? K nanna
Would you vacuum the floor my love ? alright nan
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

AW, Jane & Mandy & used to get WHY mum? and 'mutter mutter mutter' In fact Mandy & Jane still do having a few pre teens heh heh heh <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I used to pray that my darlings would have children just like mine <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

and you know what? they did <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

AW is sound asleep, went to bed at 8.30 totally worn out again. She gets up at 5 for Michael, gets breakfast ready for all - even if we dont want it, irons her clothes for the day, gets ready for work & starts at 7, doing 2 full time jobs right now - her bosses and her own plus part of a third, works through lunch & leaves at 6.
Rush's home,washes Michael, prepares dinner and wont let anyone help - now I wouldn't say she was stubborn - that wouldn't be a supportive thing to do would it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I think another little talk is required <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />


Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

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I like THAT plan!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Quick before the kids can invite themselves -- sorry sold out darlings <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Southern France, wine, cheeses, truffles, and the main food oh my, the sauces, the desserts ------

The Lourve, a wild mushroom omlette cooked in goose fat with a REAL coffee ..I wonder why I keep mentioning food??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />


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Because as women...IT'S ALL ABOUT THE FOOD!

It is for me!


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I'm hungry.

Does anyone know if they make soy goose fat?


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Is P-A-T-E the way you spell 'meat mush'?

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I am so sorry about your baby. Tomorrow would have been my little boy's due date.

I know exactly what you mean - he is just the baby that I wanted, and no one can ever take his place. Your baby is special, too, and God will give him or her back to you someday, perfect, and not blighted.

The waiting is hard, but try to take care of yourself anyway. Prayers for you....

You made me cry when I read this at work tonight. It didn't help that right now I'm taking care of another lady, in your room, losing her baby at the same gestational age at which Dillon died, but your words were poignant enough just on their own...especially coming from one with such an excellent public facade. What else are you hiding under your placid surface, dearie? Hugs to you. I'll be over later today and give you one or two or several, in person. I'm sorry that you hurt, and I love you.

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it is very hard you know. very very hard

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You know the death of your child is the ultimate deprivation
The grief caused is not only painful but profoundly and totally disorienting
You see children are not supposed to die. Not before you.

Every day of your life you are forced to confront an extremely painful and stressful paradox, You are faced with a situation in which you must deal both with the grief caused by your child's death and with the inherent need to continue to live your own lives as fully as possible. Often with other children who need mum & dad as much if not more than ever before.
You have to deal with the contradictory burden of wanting to be free of this overwhelming pain and yet needing it as a reminder of your child who died.

The two of us continue to be parents of our son.
We will always feel the empty place in our hearts caused by our little boy's death.
We were, and always will be, the loving father and mother of Peter. Yet, we have to accept that we will never be able to live our lives with or share our love openly with our little boy.
Not again, not ever on this earth.

So we, myself especially I think, because Aussie NEVER talks about Peter, I’m not sure he can … have to, must, find ways to hold on to the memories.
I, we, need these memories and whispers.

Even with a wonderful new baby in our lives, a new soul given into our care, little Michael is never a replacement, he is a gift of joy yes, but never a replacement, as Peter was never a replacement for our older kids as they grew.

I have never found a inner peace, a total acceptance, the pain will last forever, it is a grief so deep it is etched into our very being.

I will cry every day, if its but a moment within myself, for the rest of my life.


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(((((All of y'all)))

I am lucky. I never faced that grief.

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T&L - I have a Dr. Mom question for you....are you game?

Twice in the last year, I have gone to give blood and my hematocrit has been low. Yesterday it was 32. Should I just be double sure I take my multivitamin which has iron or should I worry?

Yeah, I'm, uh, how do you gently say it, not as young as I used to be, but I still have periods every month though they are not as heavy/long as they used to be.

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MORNING!!!

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A hematocrit of 32 indicates mild anemia. You may or may not feel symptomatic at that level, although you're not a good candidate for blood donations right now! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> A good vitamin with iron and B12 vitamins would be good for you; you can also research online, making your diet more iron-rich, as well as limiting foods which can hinder iron absorption. If those things don't start improving your H&H in a few months, then somebody needs to start looking to find the source of your bleeding, besides your periods.

Good luck, and happy spinach to you.

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Happy spinach! LOL

Actually, I love spinach salads. Whoever invented iceburg lettuce was pandering to the wimps. I became a big spinach salad fan when pregnant w/ daughter.....iceburg would churn in my stomache for days it seemed. Spinach was digestable.

GYN suggested Feosol or something like that. No sypmtoms of what I would perceive to be bleeding. Seems I have had these results when I get lax about taking my multivitamin...... Do you think they make iron fortified chocolate?

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All chocolate is iron fortified. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Everyone knows that!

If nothing else, check out 8th Continent chocolate soy milk. It should have lots of good stuff in it, plus soy protein which is sooooo important to women, and beats any other chocolate soy milk I have ever tasted. They have it in Safeway and Super Wal-Mart, so it must be just about everywhere.


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No Safeway around here and I DON'T do business w/ Wallyworld or Sam's.

Are you pulling my leg about chocolate being Iron fortified.....it is April Fool's day.....but it's a good idea....could they put omega 3 stuff in there too?

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Get a load of this!!!!!

http://news.aol.com/strange/story?id=n20060329175509990025&cid=936

[color:"orange"]Oy Vey!!!!![/color]

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