Hi Cinderella !!

Is the diplomat more healthy?

What's going on with all the medical stuff - are you getting help, and improving?

AW,
I worry about your H, after all, he lives a dangerous life. AS much as I worry about that, I worry about other things more.
He is cynical about life in general, yet enjoys his family and even says he loves me and lets me meet as many needs of his that I can. He can still be so distant at times and I have to accept that. I believe he is mostly happy.
He seems to have little faith in God though and that worries me.

You meet his needs as best you can - but is he meeting your needs? That's why I wanted him to come and talk. When he was here in the beginning, he worried about that. I hope he still does.

And your mum - how is she? She seems tooooo quiet these days. Even more quiet than T&L. Hmmmm, I wonder if the two of them are up to something. I'll check.

No - my chocolate bar is still in my desk drawer. It must be something else.

Hi Believer.
Does your family gather for holidays, or are they too scattered?

Hi T&L.

I should just say: Hi everyone !!!
I know I'll forget someone.

Sunny and nice here today. High is supposed to be 62. A very nice winter day. I should take a walk, but I think I'll do a few posts instead.

SS

Purse is found......Boy, did I mess up. Found my keys which I thought were in it, between a stack of drawers and the cube wall. Keys opened the drawers. Purse was in there.

MRI is bad - really bad. When the chiropractor wants to refer you to a neurosurgeon, you know it is bad.

More in IVille about both situations.

Very cold in this spot of the house. I'm going to bed. Think I need a bath and a glass of wine on my way. What do y'all think?

I'm back, and you found your purse! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi B, I've been wondering how you were.

Lots of hugs to all.

Whew,
So glad you found the purse.

I have to find my AX now. Wish me luck.

SS

Your ax? Gonna chop down a tree. Chop on my neck? What do you need that for?

No, not your neck.

My W said she wanted to go chopping tonight.

I think that's what she said.

SS

You might want to get your hearing checked. Idon't think you heard her correctly.

My hearing is baaaaaad. I already know that.

Turns out she wanted to go SHOPPING. Ha, who would have guessed?

So, we did go shopping for the twins, and our youngest son, right after I took her out to dinner.

You do know I am teasing you - right?

SS

Yup! I know you were teasing. But still, my neck does hurt. And my son did say he wanted to use an axe. So, I wondered........

Teen age sons do like implements of destruction. That's for sure.

Hope you get all your stuff done by eight, and get lots of sleep.

I'll see if I can get my stuff done too.

SS

You heard her right.

She was going chopping with your sheckbook.

Cyberneckrubs for Cinders.

Why do I not have a best friend who is either a physical therapist or a massage therapist?

We had a really good friend who was both, but he moved to South Carolina. Rotten luck!

Tis better to have massaged and lost than to never have massaged at all.

I wonder if its too late to get DD to change from Medicene? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I think I got enough sleep last night.

How about everyone else?

So, did A_D end up marrying Neaksis?

I wish someone would tell me what in the world is going on.

SS

I think it's _AD_ now. I can't even spell my own almost-BIL's name. How bad is that?

AJ's 5yo niece and 3yo nephew are visiting us. AJ was already wondering if they had been abused in some way (the 3yo woke up hollering and crying in the middle of the night), but then today the 3yo also peed his pants, and when I found him started to cry, had hidden his pants under the bathroom rug and wouldn't tell me where they were, screamed bloody murder when I picked him up and bent him over to see if he was poopy, too, ran and hid under AJ's desk while I was getting some wipeys, and curled up in a fetal position, sobbing, while I cleaned him.

Now I was not exactly overjoyed at all this, since I did not find out until I was making everyone get in the car to pick up the kids from school, but I would not have thought I was an ogre of that magnitude, either.

Since neither one has any bruises or other concrete evidence, I am not sure what the line is between possible abuse vs. likely poor parenting.

AJ was very upset when I told him, and hung up quickly to talk to his brother. (Who is probably not the culprit in any case, since he is fairly easy-going, as well as working long stretches that keep him from being any sort of primary caregiver.)

I have some funny anecdotes to tell, but most of my 8 children have disappeared, and I need to chase them down. Note to self: especially do not forget to tell about the Christmas trees.

AJ talked to his brother, who said the person who took care of the children for a long time, until recently, was likely the one to blame for whatever emotional (or other) trauma. Without having found anything themselves by way of proof, all they could do was to have the person no longer watch the children.

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Oh, that is scary - for the children.

Makes my life sound like a walk in the park.

A walk in a scary park, maybe.

I suppose you can be grateful that what happened in your family was not the norm, the way everyday life is conducted, and that you put a stop to it with your courageous actions.

Moving to the aftermath stage faster is a good thing, right?

oh, yes....I hope I never forget how grateful my daughter felt when I came home from that hearing, took her to my room, sat down in the rocker, pulled her into my lap, wrapped her in a blanket, and told her how things had gone. I held her for several minutes. She was 15 at the time. At that moment, I KNEW I had done the right things. Even if it did cost me my sister. I knew I had done well.