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When pets are part of the family and the family splits up - has anyone ever set up visitation/support for the pets? I know it seems silly but, I'm just curious. We have 3 dogs - don't want to split them up, but don't want to give up seeing them either.
What do folks do in this situation?
Dana Replogle
Yrs Wed - 10 1/2
D-Day 4/11/04
WS (me) 43
BS (H) 37
date of affair 4/03
No contact w/OM since 4/03
filed for D 4/20/05
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no kids... but we had 3 cats and a dog... she left them w/me, as she was 'supposed' to be moving into an apartment... she ended up moving in w/OM... she wanted to take the dog, but ours didn't get along w/OM's dog... she got the oldest cat eventualy... i still have the 2 cats and the dog... in the beggining of the sep, she would come visit them and take the dog to the park... she stopped doing that over a year ago... i told her i would bring the dog to see her, but she never asked to see him... i guess she no longer wants the dog... she wanted to come to my new home to visit them, but never did... and i would not be able to visit our oldest cat because of OM... so, there's all that...
good luck
samm
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We had 6 dogs when we split. Since we each had special ones we trained, it wasn't hard to know how to divide them up, though I still do miss one of "his" dogs. That one I would take if something happened and H couldn't keep him.
One of his other dogs would greet me when we ran into each other (at dog shows). My dogs had a different reaction to him though. I had 2 of them with me one day when we met to trade stuff. He came over to the car and said hi to them. One of them shyed away from him, and the other ignored him.
Waiting for dawn...
...but not afraid of the dark.
DDay: Sept 26, 2004
Moved out: Dec 16, 2004
D Final: Oct 10, 2006
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I have four dogs who we always considered to be our kids. We wrote visitation rights into our separation/divorce agreement, stating that visitation would be established at a mutually agreeable time. My H started by coming once a week - now he's down to once every two weeks. I am gone/out of the house when he comes as I don't want to see him or have any interaction. I also wrote into our papers that he is responsible for one half of any vet bills. It's a good thing, too, now that one of my dogs was diagnosed with diabetes...
Don't feel foolish at all. Protect them and protect yourself. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me via email - I believe you can send private messages off this site. Take good care of yourself - and your pups. They'll make you laugh when you don't feel like laughing in the days to come.
Getting_Stronger
Me 46 no kids: H 40 and living W other woman and her 3 kids
Bomb Dropped 4/04
H Asking For D 1/05
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getting stronger, thank you for your post. I will be sending you an e-mail. I have some questions for you.
Dana Replogle
Yrs Wed - 10 1/2
D-Day 4/11/04
WS (me) 43
BS (H) 37
date of affair 4/03
No contact w/OM since 4/03
filed for D 4/20/05
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