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THanks again for all of the kind words.
SOrry I havent posted lately.
I just got back from the second pre-trial in the divorce proceedings. The big thing we were hoping to find out was the court appointed guardian's reccomendation for our daughter. Well, it seems that this guardian lady was very useless... Not only didnt she contact some of our references, but she didnt really reccomend anything! She just said that both parents are good and that we might keep our arrangment as it is, or change it if we want to fight it out in court.
(Our current arrangment is that I get our daughter for 6 days to my WW's 8 in every 2 week period.)
I would have been happy with just equal time wiht our daughter, but my WW would not agree to that. So now she wants to fight and try to get me LESS time, unless I agree to leave it where it is.
I am SO sick of this process and just want it over...
D-Day 6-13-05
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Sadly, some of these "professionals" get paid big bucks to do their jobs badly.
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Hey, I know I havent posted here in A LONG time. Coming to this site just brings up memories of bad times past and I think I've just avoided it for that reason.
Thanks to everyone who helped me with all of the advice though.
If anyone was wondering about me:
We finalized the divorce in Oct 06. still share custody of our daughter. Trying to get more time from the court appointed guardian did not help at ALL. I ended up "officially" loosing some time w my diaghter. Although, unofficially my ex and I have kept the same arrangment that we had been using. This Really stinks beciase it means if I wanted to fight for more time, and even won, I'd most likely end up with the same arrangment that I unofficially have now.
Otherwise my finances are still crappy, but things are OK.
D-Day 6-13-05
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Hey Gramn,
Good to hear from you.
Sorry the custody sitch didn't work out but remember...the love of your child is a life long battle. Eventually they become able to choose for themselve where they choose to live. Clear and consistent love and support from you over the years should win the day.
Is xw still with YMCA loser???
How are YOU doing? About 6 months post divorce...are you recovering, dating, etc.? Are you still in Plan B to some extent giving yourself time and space to heal??
Mr. Wondering
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DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Hey Gramn! I was gonna ask the same questions Mr. W did.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Hi Gramm,
Your thread was one of the first that I started reading when I was introduced the the MB forum.
I agree with Mr.W to keep being the best father you can in spite of everything and one day she will see you for what you are.
I wish you all the best in your future.
HTW
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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Hey guys,
Of course I still have a great relationship w my daughter and have been taking her to swimming lessons every week. (at that Y, coincidentally)
My ex got dumped by the Y guy a long time ago. He and his family moved away for some other job opening about an hour away. Shes been dating another guy for a while now. Although I'm not happy about it, I dont have anything against this guy and he doesnt bother me, except for the fact that he is way older than her, but whatever...
I've been datinig too. I've gone out with a whole range of women some good experiences, and some bad, but its fun trying... Presently no GF though.
I havent been doing the Plan B thing, but only communicate w my Ex on matters concerning our daughter.
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Good to hear you are doing okay, Gramn. Also good to hear that the statistics still hold...that affairs almost always end!
Keep us posted on things every so often.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Hi Gramn:
Been wondering about you. I'm glad you dropped back in. 2many people I've met here simply went away. I hope it isn't due 2 some kind of embarasment for things not working out the "mb way". Like MM, I am somewhat relieved 2 hear that the A didn't last.
Don't be so scarce, okay?
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Gramn...MY MAN!!! So good to hear from you!!! You will always remain near and dear to my heart because as HTW said, you were one of the first threads that I read here (actually my very first)...You have no idea what you meant to our recovery...Your thread helped to clear my own fog...I think I've told you that before...I am very grateful that you were here to share your story...I know that you helped many, and I hope that you will forever hold that in high esteem...Your story was not one told in vain...
Gramn, I most certainly see you as a success story from here...Personal recovery is not to be overlooked...I truly believe that you will find much happiness in this life and that your sweet daugther will benefit so much from the man that you are...She will one day know just how hard you fought for her and her family...That is a beautiful thing and she will see it one day...May you stand proud knowing that you are a man amongst men!!!
Don't be a stranger!!!
Blessings,
Mrs. Wondering
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Hey Gramm! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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hey howdy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Hey Gramm. Glad Y-guy is gone. I know it doesn't mean much in the big picture, but happy he is gone.
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