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Triggers and how to deal
#1395189 05/31/05 12:38 PM
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Boy I am just a posting fiend today

Anyhow.....my biggest trigger is golf, my WH met OW golfing.
Now whenever he goes I am left wondering if he is meeting her, or if he will "run" into her. Another is a specific tavern.

How do you stop letting these every day things trigger that gut wrenching nausea? He has yet to invite me to go either place, probably so WE dont "run" into her.

"LET GO.....OR GET DRAGGED" me 42 WH 42 DD 12, 11 Married 15 years, known 17 EA 7/04- continued "coincidental" contact DD 9/24/04 He moved out 10/04 Plan A since 9/04 Wh moved home 5/05 "didn't want to be there" OW told him to "leave me alone" 7/05 I moved out 8/05 10/05 WH hasn't filed the divorce papers YET!!
Re: Triggers and how to deal
justcall meHomer #1395190 05/31/05 03:12 PM
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My IC taught me the best thing to help me with my withdrawal & triggers. This should be somewhat applicable here ... she tells me to think of a phrase like "I don't want to think about that right now." And say it over and over again in my head (or outloud to myself) until I can focus on something else. How it works is that your mind can't think of 2 thoughts at the same time, so when you're focusing on the phrase, you're forcing your mind to think of that and nothing else ... until you can get over the thought/trigger. Try it. It really works!

Ultimately, my wish for you is that your H gets out of his 'funk' and comes back to work things out. But, in the meantime, I hope this helps you stay sane.

Good luck,

Whisper

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