It's amazing to me that people still have such misguided views on what some call "damaged goods". Saying I would never...is putting so many limits on who you will allow in your life you're certain to miss out.

It's ok to decide people aren't your type after you've met them & conversed with them or at least conversed with them, but just because there may be a divorce or a child/children, it could be a huge loss.

I've read some profiles on match.com & ehormony & the ones that are the least interesting or the biggest turn off are the ones that have a list a mile long of what they MUST have & what that couldn't possibly tolerate. Preferences are one thing but flexability is a great thing.

I remember one thread here recently where a man said he would have been all over one women had she not been married to his friend because she was so open, happy, bubbly, in spite of the fact she was not normaly someone he would be physically attracted to. Very nice to read that.

Ethan....thanks for the post. It's encouraging to hear how well things are going for you. I'm not even considering dating until I'm divorced and even then I don't know how long it will take me to feel ready. I just had to ask the question.

And I'm sure there are lots of girls who will find you to be funny, articulate, and nice...I don't know you but that comes through in your posts anyhow. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />