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Lost,

When your WS continues to deny the affair, even in court documents, and you finally expose the affair countrywide, you might just get a restraining order slapped on you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Just so people get the other end of the spectrum. WS might also just kidnap DS and DD. So you need to be prepared. Actually, many people did not believe the affair when I exposed it. Maybe because it seemed so ludicrous and WW is such a charming woman. But when I sent her E-mails in response to my restraining order, that pushed her over the edge so to speak.

You need to be ready for BIG emotion.


What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Me 41 WS 39 DS 19, DS 9 DDay 2/25/05 Divorcing....
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sleepless,

I am so sorry about your situation! What a nightmare!!! I have been following your story a bit, as scary as it is for me to read, and you are in my prayers, believe me.

I#d like to say my WH would never do that, but I never thought he'd do this either!


Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)


Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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I am on the verge of exposing A to OW family. Did your WH leave the home, did he stay mad long? I am really scared on this move not quite sure what to expect.

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****My Apologies...Mini thread jack****

Mahhm-
Don't just expose to OW's family.....EXPOSE to everyone you're going to expose to AT ONCE....include HIS boss, HIS family, HIS friends. ONE FELL SWOOP.

-Caren

P.S.- I know you're scared that your WH will leave if you expose.....but tell me what is worse living with him knowing he's having an affair, OR exposing, and starting on the road to breaking up the affair. His anger will be short lived....my FWH was mad for about a day.....2 days later he was back at my house having SF with me again.


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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I am on the verge of exposing A to OW family. Did your WH leave the home, did he stay mad long? I am really scared on this move not quite sure what to expect.

mahhm

aren't you more scared of losing your H because you did nothing to stop the affair?


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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THAT'S What I was trying to say Mel...LOL

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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