Hey everyone, its been awhile since I ve posted any messages here, and its been a long time since I have commited to working thru all the really great advice that MB has to offer. I am truly a better person today because of what I went thru in my marriage.

First I can say that I am still married, still seperated but still married. Secondly my WW still has no intention of ever trying to reconcile our marriage, and I m ok with that, its not be something she will ever be able to commit to. However I am still never going to throw in the towel until our divorce has been finalized, and that is my message to everyone reading this post, it does not matter what the outcome will be, its not ever going to be something we can predict, its something that will happen, but how we respond to that situation, good or bad, is ultimatly a reflection upon who you are as an individual.

The feeling of freedom from guilt(its my fault my WW left) and marriage based happyness (I m not married, is something wrong with me)is overpowering and will only build a better foundation of knowing who you are. Don't just go for it, but commit yourself to every bit of Plan A/B and you will never regret it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

And this will be when?

I take it that you are willing to settle to just being married in name and not in deed? Have you ever considered that she is exploiting this situation to her advantage considering that she has not finalized the divorce?

I ask you these questions respectfully and with the hope that you give them some very serious thought.

I congratulate you though for achieving the freedoms that you speak of and wish you continued success.

TMCM