It's been awhile since I'ev posted so here is a quick update. H got transfered to a new store last week and was promoted to Assitant Manager. After I got over the initial dissipointment I figured it was better than nothing. Instead of getting set to the other side of the state like everyone else he got moved to a store that is only about 20 min. from the old one. But at least he won't be going to work with OW everyday. I really wanted to be out of here when oct. roles around and OC is born! We were going to move to the new town but rent was too expensive and both of our commutes are about the same. That was dissapointment number 2. I really wanted to move so OW couldn't just drive past my house whenever she pleases. I told H there are going to be some major boundries set with her and if she ever shows up at my house again I wil have her tossed in jail!I will not play her little games anymore!

My last day at my current job will be july 4 and I start as a lab assistant at a med. lab on the 12th. I will never have to worry about the OW family calling me at work or showing up again.

We have started MC. I am not sure how much good it is doing. we really don't care for the couselor. But at least I got H there! H realy hasn't done any of the things she has asked like trying to tink about why this happened and changing his cell and talking about the R. He talkes about it a little, but he still tries to avoid it.

I know the OW is still calling his cell. I would really like to throw the d**n thing in the pond! He is not talking to her as much as before but it is a start. I keep pushing to get a lawyer hired but H is dragging his feet. he was willing to sign the birth certificate without a paternity test! I said over my dead body! I make no promises to him about the future. I told him I will try and that is all I can do. The minute she starts making my life h*** I am gone. Iwas counting on having to deal with the whole mess from at least 2 hours away, not 20 min. He likes to think that we are all going to be one big happy family. I don't think so!

I guess I am making my second attempt at plan A and seem to be doing much better this time around. I have my occasional set backs when I get stressed out or the OW flips me off on my way home from work or I get stange hang up calls at work. Right now I am trying to forget as much as possible about the OC arriving in Oct and work on our M and trying to lead as normal a life as possible.
Hope everyone is well.

B.~

Brandy, I'm sorry, I'm not as familiar as I would like w/ your situation. The OW came to your house? Do you regularly see her on your commute from work?

Wife~
She has shown up at my house twice. The First I nerver knew anything about until the second time and H told me he talked to her in the driveway when I wasn't home. The second time H wouldn't answer her calls to his cell, so she called the house and I answered and hung up on her. she called about 4 times in 5 min. all I would do was pick up and then hang up. Then I got tired of the games and unplugged the phone. So 20 min. after the last call (the time it takes to put her 5yo in the car and drive from where she live to where we live) someone knocks on the door. And it was her. I told her very calmly to nerve show up at my house again or I would call the cops. I now have them on speed dial. I see her every once in awile when I am driving through town. I try to avoid it but My Counselor is in that town and I work for the county so I am at the courthouse quite often. I make every effort to avoid her like the plague. She is a fruitloop! And it is for the best that I keep my distance because I might do something I might regret later! She is not worth throwing my dignity away for!

B.~