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Alph, where does ANY of this make sense? I had to stop trying to make logic out of something that is totally incomprhensible to the "normal" mind... whatever that is! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I mean WHY would a man throw away a 15 yr M for a cheap piece of a$$??!! What has he to show for any of this now?! Nothing! Something really wrong in there, and I am tired of driving myself nuts trying to figure out what!
BW, 33 WH 36
Md 14.5 yrs
DD13, DS11, DD4
Tired of counting d-days, D proceeding 7/05
"Pride can break a man right down from iron.
Twist him 'round 'round and tatter up a soul
Handprint of God on the small of my back
my second chance, my second chance.
I'll bend a knee my friend, I'll bend a knee...
Lay It Down say it's all my fault, all my fault.
Say I believe, I believe lay it down.
This the hour of my healing, of my healing,
yeah my heart, my heart redeemed."
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Mulan, you have my full and absolute support. You've got one heck of a 500 lb gorilla on your back. You have done your best with this relationship. I think you are at a point where you can only get madder and madder. I grew up among pretty truthful people. It took me a really long time to realize that people lie. It took me a long time to figure out how much my WH has lied to me over the years. Not a pleasant realization especially when so many of the lies were unnecessary. Does this sound familiar?
I'm very pleased that you are starting to look at apartments. Good plan to stay nearby and be close to your son. Make sure it's a place that he likes and can hopefully have his own room. Would he want to live with you?
Keep posting. I believe you've honestly tried to change the things about yourself that you can. Having your WH constantly lie and demean you can only bring out your most bitter aspects. Get out for yourself! You have definitely earned your way out of this marriage. Let him lead his toxic lifestyle while you grow in the sun.
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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Dear Mulan,
How are you doing?
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I'm afraid Mulan has probably left to work out things on her own. MB has not been a safe place for her lately. Only she knows when or if she's ready to end this marriage -- and the strong encouragement to do so, no matter how well intended -- well, bottomline, she's not ready to launch the Dbomb and that's her decision.
Mulan, I hope you're OK. We do care about you.
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. It's only "different" in that I have chosen to stay for my son, and I've said that before. Mulan, you have to make your own choices that work for you. I have heard Dr. Phil on many occassions say, "Children would rather COME from a broken home, than LIVE in a broken home." Spidey
But that's totally, FEATHER PLUCKIN', INSANE!!!
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