SIHW I just came to the same conclusion walking my son to school.

Its a divorced forum and me and my views have no place here.

I will delete my stuff for you and others in your sit.

My apologies for my unthinking contributions SIHW.

Lesson learned fo me to stay away from this forum.

*hugs bob* i'm not mad at you just the situation.....you were looking out for one of us and that is very admirable my friend. You are the type of friend everyone should have...the kind who sticks by you even in the tough times.

crashing in without thinking more like... be happy sihw

Was he away with his new OW?

You know the simple thing is that people do stupid things - Infidelity is an awful experience to live through and though most of us wouldn't wish it on our own worst enemy - I think deep down we all wish the our exspouses could at one time or another experience the pain and the betrayal that we have experienced at their hands - Now that doesn't make us bad people that makes us human... But there comes a point - and who knows when and how we get there - but we have to let it all go... Do we ever really forgive - I am not sure but there comes a time when we must accept in order to move on... Now in my circumstance - my ex's ow is my neighbor and was my friend - and still next door - The just recently broke up - have I forgiven my ex - I think so - Have I forgiven her - well you know what not really - do I wish she would drop dead like I used to everytime I see her - not anymore but I still pray everyday that she moves away out of my face so I will not have a daily reminder of the horror that I have lived through - It has been a couple of years now.... I still don't trust anyone - I still haven't really dated... but I have come quite a long way.... And I hope one day to be free of all of it... Sure I laugh about alot of it now - but I still don't think anything was really all that funny...I don't wish my ex any ill will - do I wish him to be overly happy - NO not really but if he is ok with his life then he will be a better father to my children - - I guess I have forgiven him - but I still think he threw away a great life for NOTHING..... I don't think that anyone is wrong or right - when it comes to dealing with this - It is a hard issue - and basically it all sucks.... But we cannot tell people how and what to feel - - No "one" person in right or wrong.... You know??

I was interested in this thread to read about JustPeachy's new story...not to hear about LF97's stuff. Maybe LF97 could start her own thread so that those of us who are interested in the developments in JustPeachy's story can read about that.

By the way....if you rob a bank, and ask God for forgiveness, does that mean you get to keep the money? So if you break up a marriage, steal someone's husband, ask God for forgiveness, does that mean you get to keep him?

I don't want to get into all of this defense of an A marriage, OP, etc... I just want to read the developments in JustPeachy's story. Perhaps we can start a new thread on the other suject????

I just want to read the developments in JustPeachy's story. Perhaps we can start a new thread on the other suject????


Hear, hear.

Guys, I appreciate what you, too, are saying, but maybe a new thread is in order -- this one is Peachy's update thread and she hasn't responded in some time. We're missing her posts.


slh

BRING BACK PEACHY! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Huh, guess there still are people who think a spouse is property...who woulda thought. Hint...you can't steal a human being (well, guess you can kidnap them). No one takes anyones spouse, they all leave (or stay) willingly last I heard....maybe stupid as well, or misguided, or come to regret....but they left willingly regardless. This sort of stuff really brings out the possesiveness in people, why do we consider any human being...be it kids, spouse our "property" rather than an independent human being who will do whatever they choose to do....scrtatching my head....

Well, this would be another vote for returning this thread to its regularly scheduled program, but I think it's way beyond that at this point. It looks like Peachy realized that a while ago. And while some are willing to admit that this became a horribly inappropriate threadjack, others are not. Perhaps its time to let this thread die. Or beg the moderators to kill it.

And hope that Peachy starts a new thread for her updates.

No updates except I got rear ended by a total jerk (not very apologetic) wednesday afternoon coming home from work. Car is ok...bumper dented, and scratched and a little outta alignment, but ok other than that. Driver (24 yo impolite guy driving an 86 cavalier...darn glad he was insured)has assumed responsibility as his insurance carrier.

But I am sore. VERY sore. And that's that. Am seeing doc this afternoon b/c of soreness. Unable to lift patients or hold my head in certain position for a long time...and muscle spasms.

No words from the whole x sitch. I know what's gonna happen anyway. My whole thing is with my son. I want only what's best for the little guy.

And adding in my .02 about the whole other thread hijack,
*If you meet your soulmate, doesn't matter if now or later, and divorce is result...with intent of ending up w/soulmate, it is infidelity. Clear and simple. I don't care how long you wait. You have and hold it in your heart.

MY ISSUE was about what was happening and whether it was good to try to legally proceed with custody issues or to hold back. Am holding back to wait for the stbxw to makeher move. Then we will go in and sweep up.

And I will accept even an indirect apology if it comes my way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

LF1997,

Here I am I am surfing a board I rarely visit during a few loose few minutes before I leave work and I come across this thread. Never read your stuff before, LF. I know nothing about you other than what I can put together from what you write here.

My first impressions (first impressions are very important):

You are (still) very selfish and entitled.

You liked hurting the people affected by your A, and you still do. Your posts reek of the enjoyment you feel over your all your past actions.

You have a track record of lying, cheating, adultery and inflicting pain for your own gain. You are unchanged in these important things. You just know the MB lingo now, is all.

I do wonder if you truly belive that God has forgiven you. If you really felt that true unambiguous forgiveness you would not be so defensive about your history of adultery and your own current adulterous marriage.

If you and I were single, I would not touch you with a ten foot pole. (I’m sure the feeling is mutual.)

Sincerely,